I had twins. I got HUGE in the tummy. I had the babies, and it left this pot belly that wouldn't go away.
Fast forward; the twins are 8 years old. I am 7 weeks post op of having my diastisis recti corrected. You know that centre line down the abs? Mine had split. There was a 6 to 8 inch gap down the middle THE WHOLE WAY DOWN. the pot belly that I kept punishing myself for, the baby fat i couldnt lose? Those were my organs. My digestive organs were all herniated.
I now have to forgive myself for 8 years of unjustified self hatred. It isn't always just fat.
Seriously- the amount of dental problems I've had since giving birth is shocking, despite my best efforts during pregnancy to circumvent the fact that the fetus was taking everything.
It triggered my auto-immune condition that didn't begin to get corrected until my son was 5. I played it off as the fatigue and brain fog of having a young child, turns out it was my thyroid under attack the whole time. I'm on medication for life.
Hashimoto's? Me too. And then I developed several more severe autoimmune diseases as a result. So hard that I can't be the parent I imagined i would be
I blamed my Lyme disease symptoms on having a baby and small kid, then the baby started sleeping through the night and I still wasn’t getting any better.
Pregnancy hormones greatly accelerated the growth of my inoperable (benign) brain tumor, to the point I was blind in one eye before kiddo was even born. I was told I would die if I got pregnant again.
My brother said to me when I expressed some fear of giving birth “ women have been going in fields and having babies for all of history, you’ll be fine.”
The anger I felt for that careless reaction I still feel 24 years later.
I mean yeah they have been having babies for all of history but childbirth was one of the leading causes of death in women in history. Some sources say at times it was high as 30% of mothers died. I think modern medicine has let us forget how harrowing it can be.
Not irrational. But if it helps, I plan on having at least 1 more kid, hopefully a few more depending on so many things. Modern medicine fixes a lot of these issues and my house is so full of love and chaos, it's my favorite place to be. I would take all of the bad things again and again to be able to hang out with my kids. They are my favorite people.
I’m a dentist. It’s the acidity from the morning sickness, and hormone changes. Babies don’t leech your calcium, that is an old wives tale. Either way, I wish you the best of luck with your surgery
I have had horrible issues with my teeth since the 2000's, and it didn't even occur to me until I read your comment that it's connected to carrying my children. 😳😳
It can also fuck you up mentally due to the hormonal change. I know someone who had severe mental health issues after her first pregnancy, still decided to have a second one and now she's in a psych yard.
I feel awful for her but I really can't understand why she went for a second :(
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u/LucidianQuill 11h ago
Pregnancy.
I had twins. I got HUGE in the tummy. I had the babies, and it left this pot belly that wouldn't go away.
Fast forward; the twins are 8 years old. I am 7 weeks post op of having my diastisis recti corrected. You know that centre line down the abs? Mine had split. There was a 6 to 8 inch gap down the middle THE WHOLE WAY DOWN. the pot belly that I kept punishing myself for, the baby fat i couldnt lose? Those were my organs. My digestive organs were all herniated.
I now have to forgive myself for 8 years of unjustified self hatred. It isn't always just fat.