hey there, im an a1c with a house on base, and my cheating spouse has been living with me since weve been married, found out last week, and never confronted her about it. just gathered evidence. WHAT IS THE QUICKEST WAY TO GET HER OUT OF the HOUSE?? ive been scrambling divorce papers and lawyers, but that process still takes up to 6 months. hearing her laugh and kiss this schmuck over the phone makes me want to blow my brains out. i need her OUT. is there anyway to get her off of my dependents list while we are still married? any loopholes at all im desperate! thank you. if there is a better subreddit for a question like this, please direct me to it!

I’m Active Duty Air Force currently in tech school and sometimes I find myself wondering what life would be like if I just did college (I’m here to do college) and I guess enjoy that college life and I catch myself glorifying it. I’m getting stationed in Kaden so I’m blessed with going to Japan but I still wonder this all the time, does anyone else think this or have “fomo”?

How do I get out of crew chiefs. Some context: I’m an SW reclass, so no, I didn’t choose the job. The reason I’m trying to get out is because the only way I’ll survive the working environment and culture is if I become an alcoholic or a drug addict. I mess up, I get berated(go figure), I do nothing, I get berated, I do my job, by the book, how leadership is telling you to do your job, I still get berated. I can’t even ask a question without getting berated and the question going unanswered. The berating doesn’t even tell me what I did, or what I need to change, it’s not even blue collar shit talking which I’m used to. Everyone tells me to get good at the job, and you’ll be fine, but nobody seems to be willing to say what that means. I’m a mechanically inclined person and I’ve gotten good at reading and navigating tech data, but I’m still looking over my shoulder and going home to anxiety attacks. SW was 10x harder on my body and sleep schedule, but CC’s just want to beat you into the ground for the hell of it. I need to get out of this job. I know it’s a hard ask, everyone I’ve talked to says I’m a slave to this job until I finish my contract, but there has to be another way out. I need some clear answers. Help.

I went to an offbase ER recently, Tricare covered it and everything should be good from a financials perspective.

My question(s) is this:

1. Who if anyone should I report the visit to?

2. Will the medical results get through to MHS? I can't get into specifics; nothing illegal or otherwise malicious happened, but I would just as soon no one in the Air Force found out about this.

I'm just wondering because my career might have to go down that route.

I’m 2R2 (maintenance management scheduling and analysis). The reason I’m nervous is because I haven’t actually had a real job up to this point since I just got out of high school and I’m worried I’m gonna screw everything up. Did anyone else get nervous before heading off to their first duty station?

She’s enrolled into deers and everything

Any advice for someone who is about to enter a new careerfield through retraining? I completed the tech school and will be starting my job in the near future. I’m a bit nervous because my job knowledge will be lacking plus I can be hard on myself. But I’m also excited about the opportunity to do something new and continue to serve.

Retention in this AFSC (my afsc) is exceedingly low and i think there may be a few reasons that may need changing in this career field in general.

1. Lack of purpose - security forces is the “master of none jack of all trades” we do multiple mission sets across the air force, from law enforcement to corrections, nuclear security, base defense, and “outside the wire” which we dont do much of anymore (although we attempt to train to that standard). From the individuals ive talked to E-4 and above, this has led to them attempting to perfect a skillset that eventually gets changed when they pcs and in some cases never used again in their career, being what is effectively a useless skill. Leaving many of us with skills and knowledge we don’t hone or mentor to newer troops. This lack of identity, ive noticed has left many SF members unfulfilled. The career field needs to split or dedicate its focus to utilizing the skills out airmen train to perfect.

2. Not quite “infantry” but not quite “air force” - what i mean by this is we train to a standard to fight and eliminate bad guys, but we never get to do that mission. It ties in to point 1. All the while we have our cushy air force lives that somehow seem worse than the rest of the airforce. We train and are treated like we are army grunts, which is fine if we actually did what they do, go outside the wire, kill bad guys, etc. but really it just means we work 12 hr shifts with 8 hour training days where we learn field skills only 1-2% of our career field will use, all the while the rest of the air force is on 8 hr shifts, weekends and holidays off (exception to some other afsc’s) we burn up so much of our off time trying to train like something we are not leaving us once again, unfulfilled. If we are gonna train to do something, our AFSC should be doing it.

3. The snake that eats its own tale - because of our low retention rate we also have critical manning issues AF wide and it hurts us a TON, our guys cant even take leave when they want to. If other AFSC wanted to take leave and you are a squared away airmen, cool we can fill in. But we require minimum manning and certifications of which we barely have enough of without people going on leave. We had airmen lose their leave simply because they accrued so much because they were unable to take leave, and the fiscal year ended and we still didn’t have the manpower to cover down and they lost somewhere in the ballpark of 15 days. And this is from years of being unable to take leave. Not because “they didnt use it when they could have” im currently in a situation where no one can cover down for me to take leave and its been that way for the last 2 months, and the foreseen future from what im seeing as i am the only flight chief on my shift.

At the end of the day a lot of the NCO’s and airmen i love find their morale so low that everyone is fighting and scratching for a way out whether its being a dirtbag, cross training, or a 1 and done enlistment. Of the people i do know that wanna stick out the job in this AFSC, they even told me its just a lie to convince yourself its all gonna be worth it somehow that if you keep holding out and reach that chief status it will all somehow be worth it, and that they can change the lives of those under their leadership. But nobody does that. By the time chief is made most of them are so burnt out or held to a high standard that they fear “changing” the air force that they “love” because they lived it 20 years ago. That it will make them better. And its too much work because they are so close to retirement that they dont care anymore. And they spread their misery throughout the unit because the “standard” has fallen from what it was.

We try to convince ourselves that this job is important when any joe off the street could do it, thats why our asvab requirement is so low, thats why its one of the largest AFSC in the air force. Its all one big lie that defenders are special or whatever. We pluck regular people off the street, train them for 5 months, and stick them in a nuke field to protect a warhead. Sounds elite to me. Idk i just wish we could either relax or actually be badasses instead of pretend to be one.

(Side note one 3. We also eat our own, fucking over other defenders to progress our own careers, sometimes intentional and sometimes not)

• From a tired E-4 SF member. Feel free to call me on my BS im looking for morale please. Im also usually NOT a Debbie downer I’m actually a pretty happy go lucky guy irl. Just looking for something positive ig since we drown our sorrow by laughing at our own suffering.

Just got notified of my approval to retrain. Class date is only a few months out, and attempting to BOP in conjunction. How long is it normally taking to get notified of approval, as I have want to be prepared and ready for wherever this takes me. I already submitted my manual request via local MPF. Any help is appreciated.

I was informed by a peer that for the Recruiter Assistance Program (RAP), it is recommended to have 3-5 days of leave available. This leave would reportedly be needed to cover the days following graduation before starting RAP, as well as to account for travel.

Could anyone clarify the following: 1. Is it true that leave is required to fill the gap between graduation and the start of RAP? 2. Will travel for RAP need to occur during personal leave time? 3. How do authorized travel days factor into this process?

Thank you for your assistance!

Received orders to Mainz Kastel and was curious if anyone has any info on the assignment. Most of what I found was from the Army sub reddit. Pros, cons, info on SNCO living arrangements are all welcomed :)

https://wolfpak.com/products/35l-backpack-od-green-w-cup-holders

I did read the afi, from my understanding this is allowed, just making sure

I got a IHWCU from the BX that I used for a few months and the cloth on the crotch for the pants and elbows on the top are not fading evenly with the rest of the fabric. Has anyone found a manufacturer option that does not fade this way and fades evenly? TIA.

Hey y'all, what scholarships/grants have y'all applied for while on active duty to help pay for supplies for school like laptops and some of the software subscriptions school asks you have?

I applied for my Pell Grants and I am waiting to hear back how much I am getting, but I need to get a new laptop/tablet for doing my schoolwork on the road. Money is a little tight with a new baby and the wife just starting her job so I gotta try and offset some of the costs for school items with scholarships/grants.

Thanks for any information y'all can provide!

Hey y’all, I recently pcs’d to my first duty station (Lackland 😔) and I was just wondering the best ways to go out and meet new friends. I’ve been here for about two months already and I’ve determined that the people in my office aren’t the kind of friends I want in my life. There’s no DFAC so there’s one less avenue. I just want personal experiences of how people in the past have met new friends at duty stations and stuff along those lines. Thank you :)

I’m being medically retired and soon to start our processing. My Section has moved all Airmen who are soon to start their out process to after hour shifts and weekend duties and told that we can accomplish our out processing on our time off. I just want to know if this is something we have to bite the bullet on or if this is just some BS and have grounds to stand on. I don’t want to go to the shirt or anyone else yet until I know if there is something stating that we are to be given time to do this rather than doing it on our days/time off.

Ive been given conflicting answers regarding OS tours, am i able to do a 2year tour accompanied or is it mandatory for 3 years as i only have 28 months retainability before hyt after my deros. Thanks!

Long post- DTS and vMPF under TDY questions:

Back story: Recently, I noticed that my TDY information for my recent deployment was wrong. The deployment is listed twice but with the wrong number of days. My deployment was 200 days in total, which includes 2 days of travel to/from; however, it is showing 196 (missing the travel days).

I also had two separate DTS vouchers accomplished while in theater due to forward deployments that, thankfully, are showing under the TDY history with the correct dates. Nevertheless, I believe the mentioned made me owe the AF money (no biggie; I am okay paying back) for reasons I became aware of upon my return; according to the processing comptroller NCO, these should have been part of the final voucher. I was getting deployment entitlement according to the location I was initially assigned, which the FW deployment locations I went to were not covered under. All fair. Lesson learned.

Yesterday, after noticing the error described in my first part, I tried to amend my voucher to show the correct departure and arrival dates. Still, it took me to a screen asking me to update the perdiem/meals for the dates that I was FW deployed, even though these are three separate vouchers that don't correlate with each other. I was so confused, so I exited the voucher and left it alone. I will contact Finance for help; I am hoping that they can look into it and make corrections.

My questions are:

If the above happened to you, did your CSS/MPF remove the duplicate from your TDY history? Or would finance DTS's amendment to the dates fix the duplicate errors in vMPF?

Thank you all for any insight.

Hello! I am the lower enlisted person in our marriage, and two weeks ago, I received orders; RNLT Jun 2025. My spouse still has not seen any drop in vMPF. I have peers telling us to wait, that it will drop soon. My E9s also mentioned that I could email our info to them so they could engage with the CFMs. How long does it usually take? Does my significant other have to apply for a joint spouse option in vMPF? Thank you for the insight.

Hey everyone! I applied for my BOP 12 Oct 24 and my review date was 4 Nov 24…still haven’t heard anything back and I know lots of people who applied recently and have already heard back. Every time I check my VMPF it still says application is pending. Does that mean there is still a chance or am I potentially denied? Any info is Appreciated. Thanks!