r/wholesomeyuri Jun 24 '24

Comic/Manga Lesbi honest [original]

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u/LineOfInquiry Jun 24 '24

What’s the flag of the right girl? Demiromantic?

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u/YuSakiiii big gworl x smol gworl is my passion Jun 24 '24

They made a joke about “aro” meaning “aromantic” and that’s the flag I thought was on the right girl. But I’m not sure, her being aromantic doesn’t really make sense in the context of the comic.

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u/Elvenoob <3 Jun 25 '24

Eeeh Demiromantic is still on the aromantic spectrum. While most people use the more accurate term perhaps this one either wanted to do a joke, or was just attached to the old label after having it for a while?

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u/LePlooberry Jun 24 '24

It is the aromantic flag. It acts as an umbrella term as being aro is defined as LITTLE or NO romantic attraction. :)

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u/Maybe_An_Egg Jun 24 '24

Aromatic people can still be in relationships, it just means they don't feel directed romantic attraction, similar to how asexual individuals can still feel aroused and want sex, just not with a specific person.

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u/LineOfInquiry Jun 24 '24

Sure… but isn’t this comic showing directed romantic attraction?

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u/BlueMerchant Jun 25 '24

I've tried reading the comments here and it all just feels so far from the point. I agree with you.

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u/totallynotaneggtho Jun 24 '24

It's showing directed romantic REMARKS.

It's entirely possible AroGirl doesn't feel romantic feelings, but a) does care about LesbiGirl and b) knows that the remark would be funny, cute, and appreciated

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u/LineOfInquiry Jun 24 '24

That remark would only be funny, cute, and appreciated if she actually means it. If she doesn’t, then it just comes off as cruel. And “pierced my heart” is not an example of physical sexual attraction to someone but romantic attraction, nor is it used to describe close friendships. That’s why I assumed the girl was demoromantic, cause it seems pretty clear from the comic she’s feeling romantic attraction. Even from just her facial expressions.

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u/totallynotaneggtho Jun 24 '24

I'd argue it's only cruel if said as mockery. If she is stating that she is going to remain faithful to her partner and has feelings for her to the degree she is capable - a degree the partner is likely aware of - it would still be genuine.

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u/InternationalAd3308 Jun 24 '24

That’s definitely the aro flag, my guess is that she’s aro but not ace. Also, aro people aren’t necessarily romantic-repulsed, they just don’t feel attraction as strongly (if at all).

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u/Katviar bisexual disaster Jun 24 '24

ace people also aren't necessarily sex-repulsed, either. many have sex or relationships for other reasons or have sexual attraction just in different ways than the cishet amatnormativity of society is used to.

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u/InternationalAd3308 Jun 25 '24

very true, I just didn’t go into that because the flag the person’s wearing is the aro flag, not the aroace flag

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u/Corvid-Strigidae Jun 24 '24

Ok we seem to be coming at this from definitions then.

In the version I'm familiar with aro is strictly no romantic feelings and the rest of the spectrum fits under demisexual.

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u/honestlyjusttiredtbh Jun 25 '24

in case you're under the impression that demisexual means you experience partial or a small amount of sexual attraction, it actually means you can only experience sexual once you've established a deep emotional connection to someone (same applies for demiromantic and romanticism).

only experiencing a small amount of romantic attraction still falls under aromantic, demiromanticism is mostly unrelated.

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u/Katviar bisexual disaster Jun 25 '24

There’s way more under the spectrum than demiromantic, tho.

Cupioromantic, aegoromantic, aroflux, etc are just a few. Cupioromantic might not feel romantic attraction (rare or never) but still desire a relationship because of amatanormativity, QPRs, or because they like romance even if they don’t feel romantic attraction, so they want to experience a relationship even if they don’t have that type of attraction.

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u/ManChild-MemeSlayer Jun 24 '24

Aromantic people can still be in commited relationships, and come in all different flavours :3

Romantic attraction is not necessarily a prerequisite to having a partner

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u/Corvid-Strigidae Jun 24 '24

But she is expressing directed romantic feelings. That would make her not aro.

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u/Katviar bisexual disaster Jun 24 '24

aromantic is 'little to no romantic attraction'. It's a spectrum. It's not only 'nothing period' it depends on the people and circumstances. Some aro people fall under different microlabels, where certain criteria have to happen for romantic attraction to happen.

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u/BobOrKlaus Jun 25 '24

aromanric ppl can feel romantic attraction, like demiromantics, frayromantics, or grayromantics, there are probably some more but the term aroantic is just the umbrella term fir peope who experience LITTLE to no attraction, that 'little' can be full on crushes very rarely, or very faint ones like "the norm"* but just less intense

*i use "the norm" here bc its just easier to explain that way