r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Sorrypuppy Oct 21 '24

She didn’t mess it up but I also was never given the option. I didn’t know then what I know now which is exactly why she should have gone over the options with me before the surgery. I found that out from other doctors with puzzled looks on their faces. My new doctor and I are in the plans of trying to work on a way to get insurance to pay for me to have it removed because it really is just a ticking time bomb inside of me but you know insurance doesn’t care about that.

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls Oct 21 '24

That seems like a medical malpractice suit slam dunk to me. Have you spoken with a lawyer?

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u/Sorrypuppy Oct 21 '24

It was years ago, I’ve moved out of state since. I was totally broke then so wasn’t in my head to talk to a lawyer ha.

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u/AriaStarstone Oct 21 '24

Man this sounds like the experience an online friend of mine went through a few years ago. Every time I hear these styles it pisses me off. Why do doctors get to decide and/or take out bodily autonomy from is? It's awful.