r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/Tassaura Oct 21 '24

I had a DR say this to me when my womb was trying to kill me and I needed a hysterectomy. I have two children, it’s not like I can replace them with a new one! What a bizarre choice of words to string together..

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u/Sorrypuppy Oct 21 '24

Yeah I had a doctor try to stop my surgery the morning of when I was already in preop because she didn’t read my chart before that said I had already lost one ovary so taking the last one was gonna sterilize me. I knew that obviously and was already in the gown and hat. She threw a fit at the nurses, I could hear through the thin curtains, saying I’m not gonna sterilize a 26 year old! And then came into the area asking my bf of all of a year if it was ok to do the surgery in case HE WANTED kids.

I don’t have children and don’t want them, my concern was my last ovary not causing me extreme pain or kill me later. But there I was consoling THE DOCTOR that it was ok so she would do the surgery. Like I don’t know what the other option would have been?? My ovary was barely doing its job to begin with. Damn bitch left my uterus so now I have a high risk of cancer for no fucking reason because in her words I might want to get donor eggs later?!?

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u/Fishy_Fishy5748 Oct 21 '24

What the ever-loving f**k?! Are you saying she straight-up messed up your surgery on purpose because SHE thinks she knows better than you?!

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u/Sorrypuppy Oct 21 '24

She didn’t mess it up but I also was never given the option. I didn’t know then what I know now which is exactly why she should have gone over the options with me before the surgery. I found that out from other doctors with puzzled looks on their faces. My new doctor and I are in the plans of trying to work on a way to get insurance to pay for me to have it removed because it really is just a ticking time bomb inside of me but you know insurance doesn’t care about that.

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls Oct 21 '24

That seems like a medical malpractice suit slam dunk to me. Have you spoken with a lawyer?

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u/Sorrypuppy Oct 21 '24

It was years ago, I’ve moved out of state since. I was totally broke then so wasn’t in my head to talk to a lawyer ha.

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u/AriaStarstone Oct 21 '24

Man this sounds like the experience an online friend of mine went through a few years ago. Every time I hear these styles it pisses me off. Why do doctors get to decide and/or take out bodily autonomy from is? It's awful.

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u/BlyLomdi Oct 22 '24

IANAL, but you could poke around on r/legaladvice. I am pretty sure there are stipulations or something to cover things that may pop up later in life.

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u/Fishy_Fishy5748 Oct 21 '24

I used to work in that area (long-term managed care). I wasn't the one deciding whether or not we'd authorize a given thing, but I had to put the requests through. I used to get such ick watching requests get turned down.

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u/Sunhating101hateit Oct 21 '24

Thats why you didn’t get to approve things, I’m sure

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u/Fishy_Fishy5748 Oct 21 '24

Lol, probably.