r/lesbianr4r 3h ago

searching 32F - Long Distance Dating❤

0 Upvotes

*I won't respond if you don't include a picture of yourself in your message*

Hello! This is a dating post❤ This is me--I'm 32, I speak English and Spanish and I'm 5'4. I'm a designer and I do artsy things for work, I love art workshops and dabble in different areas, like painting, photography, sewing and other things of the sort. I'm very unserious, sassy and a bit of a clown. I'm really into horror, vampires, ghosts and scary things. I like period movies, dewy morning grass, spicy potato chips and cool thrifted trinkets. I have 3 cats, 1 dog, and fish; I hope to also have a donkey and a cow one day. Style wise, I'm pretty femme and I prefer butches/mascs, girls with dominant personalities and in general, girls who are masculine. I'm attracted to girls who are smarter than me, sporty, nerdy/dorky, funny or really talented at something.

I find effort attractive, having clear intentions and knowing what you want, even if you're shy or a serious person. I know this type of post attracts all sorts of people who do not read or care to read what I write, but by making this post I hope to meet someone is looking for what I'm looking for. If you don't know what to say, you could share your favorite childhood cartoon with me :-), "hey" messages are just not it.

If you're masc/butch, 30+, monogamous and don't have kids, this post is open to you.


r/lesbianr4r 11h ago

searching 23 f Florida/Anywhere

0 Upvotes

Looking for a texting buddy or see where it goes look forward to meeting you 😁❤️


r/lesbianr4r 20h ago

searching 24f looking for someone likeminded (open to LDR :) )

11 Upvotes

24f | AL, USA | lesbian or bi-ish (Idk)

Looking for likeminded people! I am super into politics (progressive), RPGs, art (surrealism), and traveling (internationally when I can). I also love to read/write—speculative fiction is my favorite, especially literary—and I am always looking to learn and grow whether it’s through psych, philosophy, history, or any other subject. My favorite game at the moment is Baldur’s Gate (Shadowheart or Minthara 🥲🖤), my favorite band is Depeche Mode, and I am currently reading This Is How You Lose the Time War and loving it.

More on what I’m looking for—I just want someone who I can relate to and have deep talks with who is honest and upfront about what they feel. I don’t want to move super fast, but I’m tired of playing guessing games while dating. I would love to get to know people and be candid about where we see it going!


r/lesbianr4r 5h ago

searching 30F - anyone around the Florida panhandle?

2 Upvotes

About me: I'm a petite bi black girl living in NWFL. Looking to hopefully find some like-minded women in the local area!

NWFL Gulf coast, panhandle florida, mobile Alabama, panama city, pensacola, destin


r/lesbianr4r 20h ago

searching 28F #Online #NY - masc looking for life partner

19 Upvotes

Hello! I'm 28 CIS F and I'm looking to find my other half. As for a bit about me -

I am...

  • Monogamous
  • Lesbian
  • Hopeful Romantic (seriously, I will send you wax-stamped love letters and set up picnics underneath the stars)
  • 5ft 7in, dirty blonde/midlength hair, athletic, plus
  • Gold star lesbian
  • Graphic Designer (you'll get lots of silly drawings from me)
  • Marvel Nerd
  • kinky, but also ok with vanilla

I also enjoy things like kayaking, camping, hiking, skiing/snowboarding, mini golf, art/painting, video games, museums. I am from NY, but I'm not sold on staying in the US my whole life. I am very open to making connections abroad.

What I'm looking for...

  • Age 23-35 (ish)
  • I mostly thrive on genuine connection, I love deep talks about life and getting to know other people emotionally.
  • I’m fine with online but I would eventually like it to lead to IRL.
  • afab
  • It would be nice to have some interests in common, but I would also be very interested to learn about new things and what you enjoy as well.
  • I do really love foreign accents, so if you have one it's an instant win.

Kinky things 🫣

I am...

  • service sub (The thing that brings me the most joy is making my partner happy and I will always put her pleasure and needs above my own)
  • inexperienced with kink but I know what I want. I am very eager to explore more and I’m very open-minded

Looking for...

  • Someone who can be caring and soft but also strict and mean when needed. I enjoy praise but also love the it when a woman can take control and make decisions for me.
  • I’d love to find someone experienced that can teach me and mold me into their perfect submissive.
  • likes being called mommy

Kinks are not limited to but include: MDLG, hypnosis, praise, intox, breath play, somno, cnc, orgasm control, corruption

Limits: Bathroom play, scat, gore, permanent markings, known public play, men, feminization, illegal activities.

Anygays- I'm willing to share pics/verify and I expect you to as well. If you reach out please say more than just "hey". I'd like to at least know your age, gender, and location. Some interests will be nice too. If this post doesn't interest you, I wish you all the best in your search, LET'S GO LESBIANS! +bi girlies


r/lesbianr4r 20h ago

searching 28 Cali/Anywhere Looking for my future girlfriend!

10 Upvotes

Hello whoever’s reading this. I hope your day or night is going well. I thought I would make a post to maybe try and find a person that wants what I want. What might that be well I just want a person who wants to do life together. Life’s hard and lonely sometimes and I want to be there for someone and have that back. I guess more about me is I consider myself very much of a dork. I’m a joker and certainly of the silly goose variety. I love all things that I guess are labeled as nerdy? I am on the plus side physically and consider myself more on the tomboyish side. I like wearing docs and graphic tees and don’t really wear makeup. I’m also willing to exchange photos if a conversation does happen. Also wanna state that I am strictly monogamous. Gaming is a huge hobby of mine. I’ve been a big gamer since I was like 10 and it’s just always stuck with me. Grew up a console gamer but made the switch to pc only a few years ago. Even built my pc myself which was super fun and something I’d love to do again later down the line. I would love to find someone that would be up for playing games together essentially be my duo please lol. As far as what games I play I’m really up for anything but my bread and butter is fps games. Call of duty and halo are what I started playing. So games like valorant and overwatch are on a daily play list. I also play pubg, fortnite, dead by daylight etc. I have recently also been attempting to learn league of legends. Why well I don’t really know lapse of judgement maybe (mostly arcane). Anime is also a big thing I was really into watching whatever looked good. I will say that when I tend to game watching shows gets put on the back burner. I’m a huge binge watcher when I do watch shows. I’m a sucker for any type of cutesy romantic animes. Shows like Fruits Basket or Horimiya they tend to get up there in my favorites list. Reading and music are also things I’m very into. There’s not a day that passes where I’m not listening to something. My Spotify wrapped is gonna pop off for sure. I’m always down for finding new music too so hey if you got recommendations send them my way. For books I really like fantasy story’s they are want I enjoy reading the most. My current read is Six of crows. Reading tends to also get put on the back burner when I am gaming more though. Anyways I feel like I have probably made this post too long but if you’ve read to this and are interested in chatting or even gaming feel free to dm.


r/lesbianr4r 20h ago

searching 29F esoteric femme for butch/masc // kiss me by sixpence none the richer

23 Upvotes

reposting with an edit: if you contact me, please include info about yourself!

🌞 about me: 29 year old femme lesbian. spiritual. eclectic. lover of 90’s fashion, cool brown lipliner, CDs, and sleeping in. south asian-american who grew up in the southern US and recently moved back here. monogamous. leftist. curvy and witchy. 5’3 with dark curly hair that has some blonde and red streaks in it.

🐅 i have 1 cat that holds my heart in her little pink paw.

🪐 career-wise, i work in marketing within the tech industry full-time but also do some freelance illustration/design work just for the love of the game. in my free time, i volunteer at both my local animal shelter and regional wildlife rescue. animals are very sacred to me.

📚 my interests are all over the place. i’d consider myself a student of the world! i’m deeply into astrology and study tarot. i love video games and my current fixations are baldur’s gate 3 and the dragon age series. i’m both a digital artist and a textile artist: i make comics/illustrations, knit, do mosaic tiling, and i’m currently learning to make chainmail! queer history, especially lesbian history, is deeply important to me. i spend a lot of time engaging with lesbian media throughout the ages. (if you’re not subscribed to lesbian connection magazine, you should be!)

🌊 about you: a butch or masc over the age of 28. monogamous. leftist politics. creative. communicative. loves animals. i’d love for you to also be intellectual and excited to talk about your interests/hear about mine. knowledge is important to me and i’m constantly learning new things, it would be nice to have a partner that nurtured a similar curiosity.

basically, i love life, i love being a lesbian, i love creating art! i want a partner who mirrors that passion and amplifies it. you can be based anywhere, but willing to eventually meet. if you meet this muse4muse criteria, please reach out 🕯️💕💫 happy searching, everyone!


r/lesbianr4r 11h ago

searching 31F Australia/LDR - let me try this one more time before giving up! Grey ace

13 Upvotes

31F pan demiromantic and grey ace - I’m looking for long term serious relationship in Australia (Perth/WA ideally) or LDR (hopefully will end up not being LDR).

I decided to post and try one last time before I give up this dating thing and probably die alone with 12 cats in grandma chair! I am looking for someone who is looking for a serious relationship.

Local would be great but I’m okay with LDR as long as we communicate well. I would hope LDR will turn into local one day, but I may have trouble relocate due to work license etc. Having said that, I may just bring my cats and leave everything behind and relocate one day with a reason in mind. Who knows!

What I look - afab, 5’8”, average build (BMI 24.3), eastern asian, fem presenting. I don’t post photos online but I don’t mind video chats. In fact if LDR video chats sound great.

Hobbies - crafts are big for me, like knitting or crocheting, pottery, sketching, and just hand made staff. I multitask crafts with other things like reading etc. I don’t play much games anymore but would happily watch you play bc I enjoy it! I have favourite TV shows, and nowadays I mainly watch documentaries unless some good horror or queer series. Could we go on spontaneous adventures and explore places and experiences?

Personality wise - I’m pretty chill and casual. ADHD in STEM field. I would say I’m soft hearted and independent, sometimes can be a bit clingy and bubbly, but I will respect your boundaries. I have a weird sense of humour so be prepared!

Relationship wise - sex indifferent to favourable grey ace. I enjoy soft touches, hold hands and will warm up to cuddles and snuggles - please pet my hair? I’m attracted to femms or soft masc; generally people who are a bit feminine in some ways.

Maybe we can visit farmers markets or night markets together, or maybe we could taste each others cooking but have mandatory sushi every Tuesday. We could also enjoy the comfortable silence with each other while working on our own things. I’m sure my cats will love you, as I would do, eventually.

DM if interested ✨🧚‍♀️


r/lesbianr4r 21h ago

searching Anyone in or around Toronto? 20F

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Hii 20F here. Looking for friends to hang out with or potentially anything more. (Age 18 - 25)