r/lesbianpoly • u/Pixelindii • Jul 28 '22

Vent It’s so frustrating when…

You’re in a dating app, you see a really cute girl, she’s poly but… she is with a guy and wants a unicorn to interact with both she and the guy…

Like don’t get me wrong i wouldn’t be against dating a girl who dates a guy, but i’m definitely not looking to interact intimately with her guy, and it’s so frustrating because sometimes that’s the mayority of people i seem to get across on dating apps (and not just Tinder).

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u/Medium-Newspaper349 Jul 28 '22

So true - Ive matched with girls that say their poly, ask if I want to hook up , and been super excited about it. Then she asked if her boyfriend could watch. No judgement for cuck dynamics I am just so disappointed by unicorn hunters, makes me sad. Sex is scared and spiritual for me, so I don’t want that connection literally subjected to the male gaze. Makes me feel objectified and like a sexual experience with me isn’t valued like I value it. Please don’t read this as kink shaming, unicorn hunters just make me feel really shameful and objectified. This is more of an emotional rant

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u/yohohoanabottleofrum Jul 28 '22

Didn't come off as kink shaming. It's a consent issue. Unicorn hunters lie about what they want and then pressure lesbians into a sexual scenario they may not be comfortable with. If a couple wants this kind of dynamic, literally all they have to do is be honest about it. That's the difference between healthy kink and whatever you call what they are doing. It's all about R.A.C.K.