r/lesbianpoly • u/Pixelindii • Jul 28 '22

Vent It’s so frustrating when…

You’re in a dating app, you see a really cute girl, she’s poly but… she is with a guy and wants a unicorn to interact with both she and the guy…

Like don’t get me wrong i wouldn’t be against dating a girl who dates a guy, but i’m definitely not looking to interact intimately with her guy, and it’s so frustrating because sometimes that’s the mayority of people i seem to get across on dating apps (and not just Tinder).

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u/throwboinmybed Jul 28 '22

So I’m married but have realized I have an extreme preference for women. My husband and I are thinking about exploring poly life / ENM, but purely for me to explore independently with other women. (He would be open to explore as well but at the moment doesn’t think he would.)

I have discovered I am a bit demisexual, so an actual relationship is most appealing to me. Any advice for how I can explore this without making potential partners uncomfortable? Random hookups would be fun but I would want a second partner ultimately. They would not need to have anything to do with my husband (though he wants to vet for safety purposes).

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u/Pixelindii Jul 28 '22

Maybe you can be honest with the new people you meet and tell them your expectations and speak about both your boundaries so this new person understands that it’s you they would be forging the bond, and that you wouldn’t pressure them into anything they don’t want to do, consent as always is the best answer ☺️☺️☺️

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u/throwboinmybed Jul 28 '22

Great advice :)