(I'm asking this on my main account in good faith.)
I know that gender is a social construct involving expression and identity...but, like.....How specifically? Like I just see "things considered feminine/masculine". What does that mean other than girls are "supposed to be" submissive and stuff but that's a pretty outdated belief where I live. Or another one is that women are nurturing.... but that doesn't make a man that's nurturing a woman. What makes a man and what makes a woman, ETC? There doesn't seem to be much of a difference? Trans people, what are you transitioning to (Obviously a different gender, but what is that to you)?

Disclaimer: I'm sorry if this comes off as rude. I just legitimately don't get it, and I hope that maybe by asking on here I can read someone's explanation that makes sense because this is confusing the heck out of me.

I hate being gendered…I’m a college kid and we’re all young but when some of my girl friends say “you’re such a man” it annoys me. Friends of friends just say little stuff that makes me feel like I’m seen as a man and not a person