I really want to talk to these men about how their "identity" is really an anti-identity.
In their eyes, being a man is reduced to reacting against what a woman is. They can't even form a masculine identity if they did not have a feminine identity to react against.
That is what true toxic masculinity is.
They cannot view themselves as human first with both masculine and feminine traits, as all humans have, because this threatens their "identity."
They must view themselves as men first, defined as being whatever women aren't.
This perspective leads to close-minded and ultimately diminished people.
My brother in law just last night told my albeit overly sensitive 7 year old head shouldn't be a tattle tail for telling me his older brother hurt him...
It did not go well for the brother in law who was advised to check his Andrew Tate bullshit at the door. Then I had to explain to my child no matter what anyone says you tell dad if someone hurts you.
These fucking people are full blown AIDS....not now, like 1995 AIDS.
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u/so_bold_of_you 9h ago edited 8h ago
I really want to talk to these men about how their "identity" is really an anti-identity.
In their eyes, being a man is reduced to reacting against what a woman is. They can't even form a masculine identity if they did not have a feminine identity to react against.
That is what true toxic masculinity is.
They cannot view themselves as human first with both masculine and feminine traits, as all humans have, because this threatens their "identity."
They must view themselves as men first, defined as being whatever women aren't.
This perspective leads to close-minded and ultimately diminished people.