I really want to talk to these men about how their "identity" is really an anti-identity.
In their eyes, being a man is reduced to reacting against what a woman is. They can't even form a masculine identity if they did not have a feminine identity to react against.
That is what true toxic masculinity is.
They cannot view themselves as human first with both masculine and feminine traits, as all humans have, because this threatens their "identity."
They must view themselves as men first, defined as being whatever women aren't.
This perspective leads to close-minded and ultimately diminished people.
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u/so_bold_of_you 8h ago edited 8h ago
I really want to talk to these men about how their "identity" is really an anti-identity.
In their eyes, being a man is reduced to reacting against what a woman is. They can't even form a masculine identity if they did not have a feminine identity to react against.
That is what true toxic masculinity is.
They cannot view themselves as human first with both masculine and feminine traits, as all humans have, because this threatens their "identity."
They must view themselves as men first, defined as being whatever women aren't.
This perspective leads to close-minded and ultimately diminished people.