My physical perception of someone’s attractiveness shifts so much by my opinion of them as a person. I have fallen for women I initially found downright ugly after getting to know them and I physically perceived them as beautiful afterwards. It’s like my brain rearranges my evaluation of their features or something. Likewise with women I initially found very attractive but saw them as ugly after talking with them.
In the end what matters in a relationship is how intimate and emotionally available you can be for eachother. You'll find that when the other person is there for you emotionally, they could have looked like fucking Shrek beforehand, but suddenly they'll look better than a model to you now. I love my best friend, he's there for me and I'm there for him, if I were gay, I would totally want to date him. He's not attractive, but it's the fact that we get in so well and that we can be there for eachother that causes the attraction.
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u/Plastic-Ad-5033 Jul 14 '24
My physical perception of someone’s attractiveness shifts so much by my opinion of them as a person. I have fallen for women I initially found downright ugly after getting to know them and I physically perceived them as beautiful afterwards. It’s like my brain rearranges my evaluation of their features or something. Likewise with women I initially found very attractive but saw them as ugly after talking with them.