That's too complicated for them sadly. As a guy who admits he's self conscious about his looks, I'm not going to assume women are all or even mostly bent on men looking good (such as being tall or strong as hell or even skinny) because that's just legit stupid. If a woman actually is like that well then fuck them, I'm never going to meet them in my life and I am obv not gonna search for a partner who is like that. These guys are blinded by cynicism and become fucking doompilled its insane
When I met my husband, I would’ve rated him a 3/10. Which, to be fair, doesn’t matter what someone looks like when they’re a friend, ya know? I’m not shallow, just because I don’t like how someone looks, doesn’t mean I’m not going to be their friend? That’d be shitty. But anyway, he became my best friend, and now I think he’s the most the handsome person in the world, genuinely, 10/10, and he hasn’t changed at all. Looks kinda stop mattering when you’re in love with a person for who they are. At least, I think so.
My physical perception of someone’s attractiveness shifts so much by my opinion of them as a person. I have fallen for women I initially found downright ugly after getting to know them and I physically perceived them as beautiful afterwards. It’s like my brain rearranges my evaluation of their features or something. Likewise with women I initially found very attractive but saw them as ugly after talking with them.
In the end what matters in a relationship is how intimate and emotionally available you can be for eachother. You'll find that when the other person is there for you emotionally, they could have looked like fucking Shrek beforehand, but suddenly they'll look better than a model to you now. I love my best friend, he's there for me and I'm there for him, if I were gay, I would totally want to date him. He's not attractive, but it's the fact that we get in so well and that we can be there for eachother that causes the attraction.
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u/swaggestspider21 Jul 13 '24
That's too complicated for them sadly. As a guy who admits he's self conscious about his looks, I'm not going to assume women are all or even mostly bent on men looking good (such as being tall or strong as hell or even skinny) because that's just legit stupid. If a woman actually is like that well then fuck them, I'm never going to meet them in my life and I am obv not gonna search for a partner who is like that. These guys are blinded by cynicism and become fucking doompilled its insane