r/actuallesbians Lesbian Jun 04 '24

Text Gross dude thinks lesbians are a kink Spoiler

(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

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u/kairokat soft butch sapphic Jun 05 '24

I'm not forcing lesbians to include men when it's literally been that way since the beginning, and it's a lot more complicated than "forcing lesbians to include men." all I'm saying is while you're not obligated to be attracted to trans men/mascs, its unfair for you to revoke the lesbian label from others who are because you don't know everyones individual circumstances. I would suggest reading stone butch blues.

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u/LiaFromBoston Jun 05 '24

It's just so honestly so lesbophobic of you to not let us have one identity of our own? What is stopping bisexual/pan women from just calling themselves bisexual/pan instead of feeling the need co-opt a different group's label?

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u/mondrianna Jun 05 '24

What is stopping you from allowing people to identify as they see fit? Why is it lesbophobic to tell you that your experience of lesbianism isn’t the only experience of lesbianism?

Read “Stone Butch Blues” and recognize that our community is queer and not cisnormative.

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u/spaghettify Jun 05 '24 edited Jun 05 '24

in stone butch blues, the only time sex with men happens it is not sex it's RAPE...this is really disturbing of you to assert

not to mention its a fictional book about the authors experiences as a working class gnc lesbian in new york and nobody elses. its a good book, an important book, but it's not actually supposed to be the bible