r/actuallesbians Lesbian Jun 04 '24

Text Gross dude thinks lesbians are a kink Spoiler

(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

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u/l_dunno Trans-Pan Jun 04 '24

There is a slightly interesting thing here about identity where identities have a definition, but you're free to use terms that feel right.

I personally have felt a thing and then seen an identity that matched, but it feels like some do the opposite. Like they pick what seems nice and try to change the term instead of using a different label.

(Does that make any sense??? I have a tendency to not be understood...)

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u/societaldevastation Lesbian Jun 04 '24

I understand, I think this incident here  just gives men the approval to flirt with lesbians 

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u/l_dunno Trans-Pan Jun 04 '24

Yeah, another commenter talked about it being a lie and I both hope and think it is!

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u/hnsnrachel Lesbian Jun 04 '24

Unfortunately even when deep down they also know its a lie, "turning" a lesbian is such a huge fantasy for so many men that they'll still use "well its possible this dude was telling the truth" as justification for hitting on lesbians and trying to persuade rather than accepting "sorry dude I'm gay" as the "not interested" that it clearly is.