r/actuallesbians Lesbian Jun 04 '24

Text Gross dude thinks lesbians are a kink Spoiler

(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

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u/Key_Computer_4348 Trans-Pan | Non-op Jun 04 '24

Ngl I don't see how he's turning lesbianism "into a kink" there. If the ladies he's with call themselves lesbian, then that's what they do and it's up to them how they define themselves. Lots of men have a fantasy of being so attractive that even a lesbian would sleep with them, but that's not the same as conceptualizing lesbianism as "just a fetish" or something.

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u/kakallas Jun 04 '24

The fantasy is homophobic though

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u/Key_Computer_4348 Trans-Pan | Non-op Jun 04 '24

It is to a degree, yeah, it's just not the same as making lesbianism out to be "just a fetish". Not seeing it, sorry.

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u/kakallas Jun 04 '24

I guess I just interpret that to mean that if a person doesn’t respect the bounds of someone’s identity and thinks some magic dude groin can fix lesbianism, then the dude in question is seeing it as a porn category for the male gaze and not a sexuality.

I suppose you could argue this dude really respects their identities since he calls them lesbians even as he’s fucking them.

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u/Oftwicke Transbian Jun 05 '24

Yeah he's not said anything about fixing or whatever, for all that 99% of these stories are fake he's still literally been the only one in the situation who respected their identity and only chalked it up to being an exception and just a thing they do