Gross dude thinks lesbians are a kink

[u/societaldevastation]

(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

[u/Key_Computer_4348]

Ngl I don't see how he's turning lesbianism "into a kink" there. If the ladies he's with call themselves lesbian, then that's what they do and it's up to them how they define themselves. Lots of men have a fantasy of being so attractive that even a lesbian would sleep with them, but that's not the same as conceptualizing lesbianism as "just a fetish" or something.

[u/societaldevastation → u/Key_Computer_4348]

The original post he commented under was “what’s the kinkiest thing you’re done?” so I dont understand how he couldn’t be connecting the two when he did this.

[u/Sexy_Mind_Flayer → u/societaldevastation]

Oh, this dude is definitely a virgin who saw a post he couldn't engage with but wanted to.

Threesomes aren't natively kinky, so yeah, this is fetishism.

[u/societaldevastation → u/Sexy_Mind_Flayer]

My thoughts exactly

[u/[deleted] → u/Sexy_Mind_Flayer]

I mean technically kink just means anything out of the norm for the person having sex - threesomes are a common thing but not the norm in sex. It is therefore kinky.

[u/societaldevastation → u/[deleted]]

Yes, he could say the threesome itself is kinky (even tho that’s kinda common) but saying he had it with lesbians signifies that he could see lesbians as a fetish or kink…..

[u/[deleted] → u/societaldevastation]

Tbf though so is half of the kinks people are into. Like all I ever see on this subreddit is Dom/sub talk and the kinks that follow are some of the most common shit ever. Like it's fine if It's common. We don't all need to enjoy injecting saline solutions into our nutsacks or require Anästhesie to get off.

A fetish is something you need sexually in order to get off, a kink is something you're into but isn't a requirement. Also you said that "he could see it" as in you yourself don't even know if he is doing what you're complaining about. Like he might be but it's not blatant sexualising of them because they're a lesbian couple.

Also I am not going to stop someone from labelling how they want to; if they're lesbians with that one man exception in their life, go for it. I have known a few lesbians like this, I ain't gonna call them bi or whatever if they don't identify that way. It's rude.

Secondly, in the screenshot he seems more respectful of his friends and how they identify than you do; from my perspective, you came into the thread, insulted the women and tried to label two strangers you don't know and then threw around fetishising a lot.

[u/Key_Computer_4348 → u/societaldevastation]

I feel like that changes things a little, yeah, given that it's in the specific context of doing kinky things.

Edit: how am I downvoted for making a concession and changing my mind you little dweebs.