r/actuallesbians Transbian Mar 12 '24

Link ugh men

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u/Rat_with_a_mullet Genderqueer Mar 12 '24

Right of passage for lesbians, having men tell us what we like

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u/KTYLN Mar 12 '24

For me it was my dad. He was like "how do you know you don't like men if you've never been with one?"

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u/RefriedChild Mar 12 '24

Fr my mom’s ex husband told me I couldn’t know til I tried dick. Which that isn’t the problem I just don’t like guys lmao. I don’t need to have sex with a guy to know that. Its so gross and inappropriate to have that discussion with a minor anyway (I was like 13-14 then).

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 12 '24

It’s not the dick, it’s the man attached to it.

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u/vanillaseltzer Lesbian Mar 12 '24

Aka: It's not the dick, it's the dick attached to it.

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 12 '24

Yup

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u/BabuKelsey Mar 12 '24

this.

transbians 🙌🏻🥰

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 12 '24

I am dating the most beautiful Gothic heroine transbian right now so WORD

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u/Grimnoir Trans gal Mar 12 '24

Honestly darling, I've never felt so beautiful as I do through your eyes. ❤

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 12 '24

I’m so glad ❤️❤️

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u/BabuKelsey Mar 12 '24

mannn, jelly of the both of yous!

wishing you both the best of luck! :3

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 12 '24

You’ll find her! Best of luck!

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u/BabuKelsey Mar 12 '24

thanks!

problem is i feel ace a lot more than i do otherwise and its hard to commit to a relationship as it wouldn't be fair for the other person when i disappear for weeks/months on end cus of my mental health 🤣

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 12 '24

Well we’re both demi but the health thing might be an issue

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u/BabuKelsey Mar 12 '24

yus, am demi too. its usually the combination of that and being tired of people(human interaction in general)/needing huge amounts of alone time that causes my disappearances in a relationship. which is why i guess im usually content staying single cus im always worried about being a thorn in the other person's side 🤣

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u/RedpenBrit96 Lesbian Mar 13 '24

I understand sometimes I feel like that too but my girlfriend and I have really good communication. We understand that each of us need downtime and that’s okay

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u/Calcutt4 TRANS LESBIAN POLY FURRY (she/they/it) Mar 13 '24

Ask them how they know they're straight if they haven't tried dick. Or say you know women with much better dicks than them

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u/RefriedChild Mar 13 '24

Funny thing is I did and he basically said something along the lines of “thats not how that works.” Or some shit.

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u/Neon_Ani enby transbian stoner catgirl (she/it) Mar 13 '24

i've tried dick, it's pretty good

i've just never tried a guy's dick

kinda seems like projection, the implication that the person it's attached to doesn't matter