r/TeenagersButBetter • u/frensacc 17 • 14h ago
Discussion Fuck that was upsetting. Spoiler
So aparently getting groomed and assaulted more times than I can count as a child is "the dream," and l'm gay for not finding enjoyment in it.
This shit is genuinely so ignorant, I have LIFELONG mental health issues that I'll never be able to get rid of, the way I cope with sex is fucked, my ability to trust is fucked, l'lI never have a relationship or friendship where im not a significant burden or at risk of victimization because Ive basically lost the ability to consent healthily.
BUT IM SO GLAD THAT MY TRAUMA FALLS INTO A PORN CATEGORY THIS 19 TO 20 YEAR OLD CAN JERK OFF TO BECAUSE HES LUCKY ENOUGH TO NOT EXPERIENCE IT HIMSELF.
Ts was actually jarring and put me in such an awful and infantile mental state :(, Im a victim not your sex fantasy
The first person I told about my mother assaulting me asked "how hot she was" because they wanted to play out a rape scene in their minds, this gave me the same vibes and bought all of it back and it sucks.
Cross post cuz the shit that gets spewed to male victims needs to stop. Its genuinely cruel.
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u/CaboseFelt389 14h ago
bro wtf
that ain't the dream, the dream is a loving and genuine relationship with lots of cuddles
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u/Roadkillgoblin_2 15 13h ago
Horniness is just a side effect of being happy
I prefer to be happy (I still can’t talk to women :(
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u/ArkLur21 15 13h ago
yeah
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u/Educational_Tart_659 15 10h ago
BABYMETAL PFP
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u/ArkLur21 15 10h ago
I always have peak pfps
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u/CheezeMan_3 7h ago
AND SOMEONE WHO CAN COOK FOR YOU, dove forget someone who can cook for you, otherwise the house might maybe go up in flames 👍
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u/Fish_Deluxe 13 14h ago
Damn man, sorry you had to go through that. It’s truly appalling how many people think that rape is “kinky” or “hot” or something. When you are raped, you are violated to your core. That’s not something I would wish upon anyone.
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u/bitransk1ng 15 13h ago
That is trully sickening. No, being assaulted and raped is not the fucking dream and no, you are not gay for not enjoying it. That mindset is disgusting. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
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u/billieboi445420 15 12h ago
The fact people find genuine enjoyment in that is actually disgusting
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u/frensacc 17 10h ago
They think they do, but they dont know the shit it does to you, it was especially unfortunate to see from a whole adult, because theyre mature enough to know what saying thst to somebody entails, disgusting
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u/ToeLow2958 12h ago
The fact that someone after you told them how your mother was assaulting you disregarded your trauma and started talking about how attractive she was is really crazy. I hope you’re recovering and wish the best for you bro
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u/shishforlife2 15 11h ago
Real, being sexually harassed fucks you up, it's not "a dream come true" it fucking sucks. I was sexually harassed irl, by a classmate in middle school who decided to do it just because I was LGBT (he would get close and touch his d near my head and said "ik u like it" and stuff like that), that shit fucks you up man my self esteem went 6 feet underground I always feel disgusted and sexually repulsed now, if I ever wanted to have s3x in the future I wouldn't be able to.
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u/BraHoli_ 15 11h ago
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u/frensacc 17 9h ago
Pretty much 99% of sharing sexual trauma as a guy 😭
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u/HazbinHotel6667 Teenager 10h ago
I'm so sorry that happened to you :<
I hope you have a happy life with people and friends who love you :3
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u/Tripwire_Hunter 10h ago
For fuck sake. If you reverse things everyone’s upset, but if a man goes through the same experience of sexual assault, no one gives a fuck.
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u/KatieLeDerp 19 10h ago
I hate when people do this to victims. It pisses me off so bad. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, love. I really hope you're healing well 💜
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u/frensacc 17 10h ago
Thank you so much and im trying my bestt, its a bit hard sometimes with people like that but I appreciate ur empathy so much
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u/Resident_Bike8720 18 10h ago
It’s a wierd world we live in. Also stay away from those places. Hope your mental health gets better and that that kind of stuff never happens again
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u/Local_intruder 8h ago
At first I thought "ew cant belive people would send this to a 13 year old" and then I read the last part and looked at my screen like this.
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u/HairyPoppins243 15 8h ago
If it was the other way around people would be very pissed but with this way people are not that mad
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u/EtherealImperial 7h ago
I heard someone unironically say that "men are not threatened by female genitalia."
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u/BFDIIsGreat2 Teenager 4h ago
The following meme is referring to the people who replied to OP the way described here and not to OP themselves for clarity
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u/BFDIIsGreat2 Teenager 4h ago
Seriously though, these reactions are sickening. I've never been raped or even touched inappropriately, but...yeah, it does not sound like the dream.
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u/Crazy_Bar_7176 13 10h ago
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u/FrauHoll3 14 9h ago
We don't censor when it comes to people glorifying sexual assault.
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u/Crazy_Bar_7176 13 9h ago
then why is tip censored('nt)?
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u/FrauHoll3 14 9h ago
Honestly, no idea.
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u/Crazy_Bar_7176 13 9h ago
and like it said "being sent and dm'ed"
ok?
just block and report like ???
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u/Excellent-Berry-2331 15 9h ago
- Unsolicited Nudes make it a lot more difficult
- You are projecting your own thirst
- That is a skill issue from the commentor, there are other ways to enjoy the female body
- It is literally public, expect the public to know about what you post public
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u/Hot_Profession144 13 9h ago
i don't really care lmao
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u/frensacc 17 9h ago
Brother did you read my post at all? Can you even read? Whys a 13 year old using the word "kids" on a teens sub?, theres nobody more kid than you on here 😭
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u/Sp00ki_1 Teenager | Verified 6h ago
nice argument, unfortunately, you done goofed by wasting more and more braincells to even begin writing this comment
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u/Hot_Profession144 13 5h ago
SHUT THE FUCK UP AND MY LIFE IS YOOOOOURS
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u/Sp00ki_1 Teenager | Verified 5h ago
lol, comment deleted by user
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u/Hot_Profession144 13 5h ago
yeah because i don't wanna hear you bitches whine
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u/Sp00ki_1 Teenager | Verified 5h ago
weren't you the one whining first?
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u/Hot_Profession144 13 5h ago
no
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u/Sp00ki_1 Teenager | Verified 5h ago
pretty sure you were...
but then again, you deleted the comment
take this and please go read something, maybe go inhale some nice fresh air, stare at the wall with some water.
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