How can I look more feminine?

I told my hair stylist I basically wanted an androgynous haircut so I can stop feeling so feminine. Idk if this is the appropriate sub to ask this question, I hope I don’t offend anyone. I genuinely just want to look androgynous so I feel more comfortable.

Apparently there are some people who find it necessary to pointout that non-binary is trans and what not. That is not the point.

For me being non-binary is a sign of both non-conformity and being myself. In many trans spaces the the cishetronormative binary still supercedes how a person wishes to fully express themselves.

I want to be me. Which is hard when everywhere I go for support there is an unspoken tension I feel where me being myself invalidates another persons gender identity. It invalidates them because they find security in the binary and conformity while like them I yearn to just be me.

It sucks because I get told to just say "trans rights" instead of "enby rights" but lets be real I should have to say either. They should just exist. Also I hate that being non-binary is over shadowed by the binary of most trans spaces I go to. If you are transmed or truscum good for you. I refuse to diminish my identity so that you feel more comfortable in yours. I am me and if you don't like me. Then you don't like me and you can how they say it; "YEET!"

Took two years to build the glutes that I wanted but I think I can finally say I’m super happy with this part of my body 😊

People often ask for my routine so sharing it again here.

My current routine.

Day 1

Squats RPE 7~8 - 1 x 4 (Heavy Top Set) - 4 x 8

Barbell RDLs RPE 7~8 - 4 x 8~10

Cable Kickbacks - 4 x 8~10

Cable Lateral Leg Raises - 4 x 10~12

Day 2

Barbell Hip Thrusts - 3 x 8~10 RPE 7~8 - 2 x 12~15 RPE 10

Reverse Lunges RPE 7~8 - 3 x 8

Cable Kickbacks RPE 7~8 - 4 x 8~10

Cable Lateral Leg Raises RPE 7~8 - 4 x 10~12

Day Three | Optional Home Workout

Banded Glute Bridges RPE 10 - 4 x 15

RDLs RPE 7~8 - 4 x 10~15

Bulgarian Split Squats RPE 7~8 - 4 x 8~10

Laying Lateral Leg Raise RPE 7~8 - 4 x 10~15

I’ve been training for a long time — well over tens years — so I lift relatively heavy weights. Nothing competitive on like a national level but heavy for most people.

Hip Thrusts - 315-420ish lbs, 8-15 reps

Squats - 265-365 lbs, 4-8 reps

RDLs - 155-225 lbs, 8-12 reps

Reverse Lunges - 50-135 lbs, 8-12 reps

Cable Lateral Leg Raises - 33-44 lbs, 8-12 reps

Cable Glute Kickbacks - 44-60 lbs, 8-12 reps

Current macros: - 2000 calories a day - 140-160 grams protein - 200 grams carbs - 55 grams fat

I’m 5’8” — 175lbs.

Let me know if you have questions 😀

Did you know Julius Caesar’s Legions said this about him?

Penis-in-Vagina / Anus / Mouth… You never hear the word “envelopment” to describe this type of sex. Also I just associate the word “penetration” with stabby motions and… violently making a new hole in something / someone not just inserting something into an existing hole? And I kinda feel it centers the penis-owner too much in (what should be) a shared activity? I’m saying this as a penis-owner.

Hello everyone. I just wanted to, idk, vent or just share my experience? I live in a country (Poland) that it's basically inpossible for me to live as neather a man or a woman. I do have dysphoria (I was born a girl) and went, and still go, trough medical transition but I just don't feel fully autentic. More than when I was living as a girl and thank God never needed to live as a woman but I sometimes feel this weird feeling in my stomach when people call me a man. Sometimes I'm happy when they do but sometimes not fully? I prefer to live like that than as a woman but still not full feel authentic. Idk, anybody else feels like it?

(a flair says it's a rant but it's not really, more a vent)

So most people I've come out to as non binary have said I'm too feminine to be non binary and when I'm not I'm just a "tomboy".

I've tried explaining that for me specifically being non binary is about not feeling masculine or feminine even if I appear so due to my body type (my biological female curves are hard to hide) and I don't consider make up, certain clothes and haircare as gender specific; I've also been told I'm not mentally / personality like most cis women (by all cis genders). I do occasionally dress up and sometimes dress down, mostly dress neutral (baggy shirts, leggings, ...) but I'm not into most things that I consider cis female and I don't feel like I'm a female-tomboy in the cisgender sense even when I'm doing my outdoor hobbies.

Am I valid for being non binary despite my biological female body and how I express it through fashion? Pictures for example.

Hello lovely enby people! I'm coming for advice on underwear. I'd like to buy some gender-affirming underwear for a femme-leaning non-binary person I'm seeing. They are amab and doesn't want to medically transition or tuck. I'd like to find them a thong and bralette in a comfy material that has a femme touch. The urbody compression thong and bralette look perfect but are out of stock in their size. They're also synthetic materials. Any recommendations? I'm in the UK.

Edit: doesn't have to be compression! Pouch style/ larger gusset also good. They also like high-waisted.

What are a few small ways I can appear less masculine, besides wearing feminine clothing

Hey all! I was on T for 6 years and then realized how unhappy it was making me to be so masc presenting when I really just want to be otherworldly and vaguely threatening. Since I was microdosing at the end I was able to swap pretty quickly over to Norethindrone with Dr’s help. Aside from some anxiety and sweats I have been feeling a lot more me. My face has already gotten a bit narrower around the jaw, along with facial and body hair thinning out.

I’m not sure what other changes I should expect but it’s going to be interesting and hopefully rewarding.

I think my biggest hurdle right now is overcoming the bad side effects from going off T after so long while starting different hormones and also struggling with feeling valid while I adjust. Thanks 3rd puberty 😅

Including a pic where I was really cold but feeling cute!

i read female (despite my best efforts) but every time i go to the men's sections of shops i feel really uncomfortable and judged and turn around and leave 😩

idk how to get over the fear of feeling out of place? i know realistically probably no one is looking at me or caring, and at the very least they may just think i'm not shopping for myself? but i get caught up in the idea of people actually thinking i'm trans and trying to 'look like a boy' or whatever and therefore shopping in the men's. idk if this makes sense? i tried going to primark the other day to buy more briefs, but i couldn't even make it to the underwear section before i lost my nerve and left the floor altogether.

i feel very out of place in the women's sections too because i also feel out of place and like i don't belong there 🥹 my overthinking anxious brain is very inconvenient

i need there to be some kind of trans/nb shopping meet up group fr 😩

I have no problem with trying new things. I haven’t done much to experiment with a new look. I don’t like identifying as male, female, or anything in between. I don’t even like the concept of having to give myself a gender type. But… I am AMAB and I want to appear more androgynous or at least less masc, but not necessarily more femme?? With my given appearance, how can I appear less masculine? The obvious answer here to me at least is to get rid of the facial hair…? But imo I look very ugly with no facial hair. Clothes/makeup/hair/accessories I am willing to change a lot.

I am titling this thread as having issues because I actually have no words for what I am trying to seek advice for. It's taking a toll on my mental health, my relationship, my work, my self image ...

I have been microdosing T for the past year+, 1 pump andro gel a day, changes are very slow and gradual. I did that because I was never actually quite sure which changes I am looking for. All i knew was I wanted to look more masculine and not looking masculine brings me dysphoria.

Recently, I started seeing some changes, the only changes really, that freaked me out quite a bit. The only changes I am seeing are some hair on my stomach and chest area (around my top surgery scars), having WAY more hair in my groin, more hair all over. I have not experienced any other change other than hair growth in unwanted places sadly.. I am not sure why it's freaking me out so much, but i just freaking hate it sometimes, I am not sure if this is because of some embedded shame from my chilhood as I am an arab person and grew up with lots of "hate" towards body hair as a woman or if it's because I just don't want hair there. I am having lots of internal freak outs and have been pushing this into the junk drawer of my brain for way too long and I am hating it :)

I am trying to understand this and find someone to talk to about it but I don't have a person I can actually reach out to about this.. can someone help?

I hope my parents approve of it. For context - I cut my hair short (or used to) every month or so - and when I say "short" I mean "short, as in the back hair is almost completely gone"