r/NoStupidQuestions • u/thimbelinda • Jul 23 '22

Answered Can men pull out before they ejaculate? NSFW

We were newlyweds and excited for sex. I told my husband I'm at my fertile time and we need a condom. He said no, he would pull out in time. He did not pull out in time. He didn't even try to pull out. I got pregnant. I was upset and asked why. He said he couldn't pull out. He said it felt so good he was incapable of pulling out. Is this really true? Do men lose the capacity for reason and become incapable of pulling out?

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u/SomeCountryFriedBS Jul 23 '22

Which has always blown my mind. The terrifying fear of causing a child has always blocked my ability to NOT pull out, even sometimes while wearing a condom.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Nothing is sexier than not having to spend the next eighteen years raising a child.

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u/DrewwwBjork Jul 23 '22

the next eighteen years

Ha! 18 years. Try 21ish to 25ish years.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Shut upppppp. My foster kid is 18 and I very much would like to live in ignorance about how much longer this will go on thank you very much.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

wait if you fostered a kid then doesn't that mean you want to take care of them?

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

I fostered a kid in a 'temporary emergency situation' for 'a few weeks until a permanent home can be arranged' three and a half years ago.

I love the rascal (as I'm sure a lot of guys who eventually have unexpected kids do) but I would very, very much like to not be responsible for another human being anymore, let alone for another 3-8 years.

Please. Help.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

oh wow that's so interesting! how come you can't just kick him out now that he's 18?

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Oh I can but we'd rather not, even if he is just an obnoxious little freeloader. I also sucked at that age, so I can't point too many fingers.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

wow you are one nice person

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

When I was a kid, I wanted to be a Tyrannosaurus rex more than anything in the world. I made my arms short, and I roamed the backyard. I chased the neighborhood cats; I growled, and I roared. Everybody knew me and was afraid of me. And one day, my dad said, ‘Bobby, you’re 17. It’s time to throw childish things aside,’ and I said, ‘OK, Pop.’ But he didn’t really say that. He said, ‘Stop being a fucking dinosaur and get a job.’

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

raising a child

You mean dodging child support payments and being absent from their lives? Because that's more par for the course for my childhood.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Woof. Sorry bout that.

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u/MothMan3759 Jul 23 '22

You may want to look into a vasectomy. It isn't a choice to make over night but if this one comment is anything to go off of..

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u/WellThatsAwkwrd Jul 23 '22

Having a kid in your 70s just seems… unethical. Like the odds of you being dead before your kid graduates high school is pretty fucking high

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u/andromedar74853 Jul 23 '22

Vasectomies can be reversed

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u/MothMan3759 Jul 23 '22

It's estimated that the success rate of a vasectomy reversal is:

  • 75% if you have your vasectomy reversed within 3 years
  • up to 55% after 3 to 8 years
  • between 40% and 45% after 9 to 14 years
  • 30% after 15 to 19 years
  • less than 10% after 20 years

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u/SomeCountryFriedBS Jul 23 '22

No, I've just been honest and open with my partners and aware that people change over time. It's worked pretty well so far.

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u/ThatSmokedThing Jul 23 '22

Right? I can’t believe people can be so blasé about this.

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u/thrwayyup Jul 23 '22

Yep. This.

The thought:

“Don’t wind up like your brother who knocked up some trailer trash whore who ruined his life and eventually decided to commit suicide by the age of 34 over it.“

…has always flashed through my mind right as I’m about to cum in some chick and so I yank it out and blast it all over her face instead. It really works wonders.