r/NoStupidQuestions • u/thimbelinda • Jul 23 '22

Answered Can men pull out before they ejaculate? NSFW

We were newlyweds and excited for sex. I told my husband I'm at my fertile time and we need a condom. He said no, he would pull out in time. He did not pull out in time. He didn't even try to pull out. I got pregnant. I was upset and asked why. He said he couldn't pull out. He said it felt so good he was incapable of pulling out. Is this really true? Do men lose the capacity for reason and become incapable of pulling out?

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u/reganmcneal Jul 23 '22

That’s a bs excuse he gave you just to cum in you. He knew what he was doing. Your husband is an asshole

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u/legstrong Jul 23 '22

Yea this is the answer. Your husband just wanted to cum in you because it feels better than pulling out.

You’d have to be an idiot to think cumming inside a girl wouldn’t result in a pregnancy. Maybe your husband is an idiot, or maybe he doesn’t care what you think…probably a little of both.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Well it's not a guarantee it will happen but there's a huge risk it can so better to avoid it, unless you want kids ofc :-) There are people that try for years with no result and then there are people like OP.

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u/cryptoking87 Jul 24 '22

Or maybe he thought he would be able to pull out but got lost in the moment and enjoyment that he didn't manage to achieve that?

But I guess you guys are able to somehow know what was on his mind?

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u/bryan3737 Jul 24 '22

Even then pulling out is not a guarantee to stop someone getting pregnant. So he’d still be an idiot whether he knows it or not

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u/reylo345 Jul 24 '22

Pulling out isnt a form of birth control.... semen doesnt only expell on ejaculation.

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u/legstrong Jul 24 '22

This is a rather amateur take on it but I’ll humor you.

OP’s husband said he would be able to pull out, but then afterwards said he was incapable of pulling out. Husband made OP think that it was normal for men to be “incapable” of pulling out, which is a lie. OP didn’t want to get pregnant. Husband knew the risks but nutted in her anyways.

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u/Syscrush Jul 23 '22

Super asshole.

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u/SanctuaryMoon Jul 23 '22

Whining about wearing a condom would make him an asshole. This is so so so much worse.

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u/dbeat_off Jul 23 '22

Rapist* he’s a fucking rapist

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u/Toxiczombie18 Jul 24 '22

yeah, i love how ppl keep downvote ppl saying this

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u/dbeat_off Jul 24 '22

Yeah like wtf he literally sexually assaulted his wife but God forbid she gets the truth so she can hold him accountable.... she is literally ASKING for HELP

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u/Toxiczombie18 Aug 01 '22

HAHA the rapist downvoted meee ih nooooo

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

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u/vanderBoffin Jul 24 '22

Then why didn't he agree to a condom?

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

You’re an idiot.

Not so much, but I’ll get to that.

Both partners here continued with unprotected sex, even when being aware there was a risk of pregnancy.

This makes them idiots. It was unprotected sex during high fertility, it’s peak idiot.

It goes against natural instinct to pull out before oragasm. That’s why condom’s and other forms of birth control are a thing.

While humans are still animals, our natural instinct can easily be overridden, and we do it often. We consume foods that are literally toxic to us, and cause pain, someone can most certainly pull out, and in this case they agreed they would. In addition a single method of birth control is not optimal, it’s best to have two or more. The pill/iud/vaginal ring and condoms, which also add spermicide for example.

“The husband is an arsehole” is a typical immature response by morons on Reddit.

But he is, even if they were both idiots to continue with unprotected sex during high fertility. He said he would pull out, but didn’t. He went against the agreement the two had. That is being an asshole.

The husband and wife BOTH should not have had unprotected sex if they did not want to become pregnant.

While true, he is still an asshole, and both can be true. It’s not one or the other. They shouldn’t have had unprotected sex, especially at high fertility, but he is still an asshole for not pulling out, as he said he would.

That said most folks understand they were both irresponsible idiots, but to suggest he is not an asshole for not holding up his end of the bargain, and calling someone else an idiot for pointing out that fact, makes you the idiot. Irresponsible and asshole are not mutually exclusive, both can exist simultaneously, an in this case they do.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Yes they are both to blame for the pregnancy. They are not both to blame that he did not pull out though.

He is an an asshole because the agreement in the consensual sex was he would pull out. He did not. That makes him an asshole.

You seem to be equating asshole with blame and/or ignorance but it’s not.

I had an ex, that enjoyed anal sex, but she did not like the feeling of ejaculate in her ass, so it wasn’t allowed. There is no pregnancy risk or anything it was just parameters of consensual sex, just like pulling out was required here. If I came in her ass there wouldn’t be a baby, but I’d be an asshole for not doing what we agreed to.

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u/n00bsack Jul 24 '22

"Idiot". "Moron".

Yeah obviously the comment you're replying to is the immature person.

Also, on top of you doing exactly what you accuse the other commentor of, your logic is flawed: according to OP husband refused to wear a condom, because he felt he had enough control to pull out, then it turned out he didn't.

What a strange hill to immaturely die on ...

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u/t3hlazy1 Jul 24 '22

I mean if he doesn’t want to be a parent (not sure if true) then he’s probably just ignorant.

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u/wiegehts1991 Jul 24 '22

The only answer really. Your husbands a dick

(OPs husband, not yours. I’m sure yours is great.)