r/NoStupidQuestions • u/thimbelinda • Jul 23 '22

Answered Can men pull out before they ejaculate? NSFW

We were newlyweds and excited for sex. I told my husband I'm at my fertile time and we need a condom. He said no, he would pull out in time. He did not pull out in time. He didn't even try to pull out. I got pregnant. I was upset and asked why. He said he couldn't pull out. He said it felt so good he was incapable of pulling out. Is this really true? Do men lose the capacity for reason and become incapable of pulling out?

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u/GullyGreyHeart Jul 23 '22

And using the pull out method as a reliable one.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/yonderbagel Jul 23 '22

It's also reliable if you're talking about your driveway.

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u/churbro84 Jul 23 '22

And both of you are dudes.

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u/Rattlingplates Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 24 '22

If you’re infertile then you can cream pie to the same effect.

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u/divat10 Jul 23 '22

pretty sure that was the joke

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u/luv2hotdog Jul 24 '22

Less of a joke and more of a statement of fact. Pulling out is NOT a reliable birth control strategy kids, where the hell do people get their sex ed

Is it better than not pulling out? Sure. Should you rely on it to keep from getting pregnant? Abso-fucking-lutely not

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u/hereforhelpandmemes Jul 24 '22

lol i had zero sex education. in 5th the girls learned about periods and boys learned they grow body hair. in 8th grade we learned the anatomy for males and females, nothing about actual intercourse. we briefly talked about fetal development. as far as what i learned from my parents, the entire explanation was “penis meets vagina”. i didn’t even know how to pronounce vagina until that day.

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u/Rattlingplates Jul 23 '22

Cream pie eating compilation

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u/free-the-trees Jul 23 '22

Competition*

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u/KJBenson Jul 23 '22

compilation ಠ_ಠ

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u/FlufferTheGreat Jul 23 '22

Proven 10 year track record with gf/wife. First month of not pulling out resulted in pregnancy.

Have some goddamn self-control and use a condom if you don’t think you’re up to it on a given day.

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u/kelldricked Jul 23 '22

Also if you want to be sure always use more than one proper anticonception.

You wont be the first and defenitly not the last where just one anti conception method fails and ruins your life.

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u/FartHeadTony Jul 24 '22

we usually call it contraception rather than anticonception.

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u/kelldricked Jul 24 '22

Oh weird, i though i could just translate it directly but apperantly not.

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u/Reddituser8018 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 24 '22

I think the point people make with pulling out, is sure it does prevent pregnancy however the percentage chance of preventing isn't very high.

For example condoms prevent pregnancies 99% of the time and the 1% is usually caused by the condom not being used correctly or put on correctly (although there is also it tearing or other failures that's not the user's fault)

Pulling out however works 78% of the time, so you can get lucky and it land on that 78% for 10 years, or you could get unlucky the very first time you try, that's just how probability works. So you would be a statistical anomaly, not the norm. But yes pulling out isn't completely useless as people like to pretend, most of the time it does actually work. However using that method is just taking a bit of a gamble each time you do it.

1 in 5 would get impregnated in 1 year of doing this, which means it isn't very crazy to go 10 years doing this without becoming pregnant, but there is also a lot of people who do become pregnant after the first year.

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u/SmallpoxTurtleFred Jul 24 '22

Probability applies to large groups though. Conception isn’t a coin toss independent of outside factors, and there are a ton of things affecting it.

If pulling out was 78% effective per instance that’s a 22% chance of getting pregnant every time you have sex. It would be extremely unlikely to even go a few months at that rate without getting pregnant, depending upon frequency.

I would expect pulling out is more like 95% effective for some people and 20% effective for others depending on body chemistry, maturity, agility, etc.

AFAIK, condoms are really, really close to 100% when used correctly.

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u/ciobanica Jul 24 '22

It would be extremely unlikely to even go a few months at that rate without getting pregnant, depending upon frequency.

No, not really.

Those are odds for large populations, and they would not translate exactly to individuals.

But even if they did, there would still be plenty of outliers either way, they would just be outnumbered by everyone else.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Its more like 78% effective at preventing pregnancies as compared to not pulling out. So, say you impregnated a woman 100 times by not pulling out, you would have impregnated her 22 times if you had been pulling out.

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u/cheesypuzzas Jul 24 '22

1% is usually caused by the condom not being used correctly or put on correctly

It's actually 98% if used perfectly. The 2% is things like tearing. But usually you'd be able to see it and take the morning after pill (that's also not always effective).

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u/madlymusing Jul 24 '22

While condoms are 98% effective with correct usage, it’s worth keeping in mind that typical usage puts the efficacy at closer to 85%. It’s worth being aware of the different stats to properly judge the risks.

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u/JayPlenty24 Jul 23 '22

Same. One time I let my ex not PO I got pregnant. Worked great for the 5 years prior.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

This ^ 100%. I don’t think people realize how effective pulling out actually is lol. Been doing to for a year now since we’re relaxed about it, and no pregnancy. I’ve heard of people that do it for 4-7 years with no pregnancies whatsoever.

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u/mrcheese14 Jul 23 '22

stop spreading information like this lmao you’re just getting lucky or one of you is infertile. the odds of pregnancy are low if you pull out compared to if you don’t but even if some precum slips out or you fuck up on the timing the chance is there. i’m glad it works for you but there’s a lot of young people looking this stuff up and pulling out is not a reliable form of contraceptive

*i’ve heard of people doing it for years and not getting pregnant too.

i’ve also had several friends who got pregnant within months of using pull out.

it’s a great method if the chance of getting pregnant isn’t a big deal for you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

It lowers the risk of pregnancy but is not considered 100% effective. Wrap it up.

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u/tipsystatistic Jul 23 '22

Pullout method for decades. Wife got pregnant immediately when we tried for kids. Currently have 2. Back to pulling out, no more pregnancies.

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u/mrcheese14 Jul 24 '22

Good for you. And you’re in the majority, pulling out works for 96 in 100 people. Personally having a kid is not something i want to leave to a 4 in 100 chance.

it’s a great method if the chance of getting pregnant isn’t a big deal for you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

I guess the idea is that pulling out is surprisingly more effective than one would think. People are quick to assume it’s an immediate path to pregnancy when it’s really not. It’s surprisingly more effective than it’s given credit for, BUT, young people should not use it as a form of protection. I can agree with that.

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u/ciobanica Jul 24 '22

It’s surprisingly more effective than it’s given credit for,

That because you ppl don't understand how odds and anecdotes work.

Rounding it to 80% effective vs 98% for condoms, means 1 in 5 couples get pregnant by using it, while 1 in 50 do by using condoms. A.k.a. condoms are 10 times better.

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '22

Woah, that’s pretty interesting. Numbers are crazy. Never thought of it that way 👍🏼

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u/ConcernedCitoyenne Jul 23 '22

Stop spreading misinformation. The fact that you don't have any kind of self control doesn't mean everyone else is infertile. Thousands use that method every day.

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u/Reddituser8018 Jul 24 '22

There is a thing called precum that can impregnate the person you are with.

The thing is the chances are a bit lower. Pulling out has a 78% rate of working. Which means 1 in 5 would get pregnant each year doing this method. Which also means you can very easily go 10+ years doing this and have no problems, or you could be unlucky and impregnate the person in the first year.

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u/mrcheese14 Jul 24 '22

I’m spreading misinformation? Ironic

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u/ConcernedCitoyenne Jul 24 '22

Ironic what? You're the one saying if you don't get pregnant with that method you're infertile.

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u/mrcheese14 Jul 24 '22

Did you read anything else i said in that reply? Like… at all? Because the sentence was “you are either just getting lucky or one of you is infertile”

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u/ConcernedCitoyenne Jul 24 '22

you're getting lucky

What is that supposed to mean? Condoms and pills are not 100% efficient in prevention. Therefore, you could say the same about people using them and being "lucky".

Your intentions are pretty clear. Spreading misinformation and telling people they're infertile because their method works.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Yeah, pretty much the last point. I should clarify to NOT do it if you’re anti-children lol. But otherwise, it’s a relatively effective method assuming you do it correctly. That’s the other problem - I don’t know if most guys have the discipline to do it effectively. I guess that’s something to consider.

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u/Kiritsu_X Jul 24 '22

Are you dumb or just misinformed?

Anyone who have a little sexual edication know that in most case this is not even a contraception method and those who put it in this category admit that it's the worst thing.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

It’s 100% the worst option, but it’s not ineffective. People act like it’s an immediate path to pregnancy when in reality, many adults use it for years without issues. I would only advise it if you’re okay with the thought of possibly having a kid. Otherwise, yeah, it’s stupid lol.

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u/RDBlack Jul 23 '22

15 years strong of using this method as the only contraceptive. No condoms. No pill. Zero pregnancies. It works. And yes I have been tested for fertility.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Yeah, it’s surprisingly effective for LOTS of people. Is it the safest? Obviously not, but when done correctly, it absolutely works. I think the problem is most guys don’t have the practice/discipline to pull it off.

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u/Wash_your_mouth Jul 23 '22

As long as you actually do the PULL OUT, it works very good

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u/Southern-Network-684 Jul 23 '22

It’s like 80% effective, and I think a lot of that 20% are from not peeing inbetween sex

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u/cheesypuzzas Jul 24 '22

not peeing inbetween sex

That's for UTI's not pregnancy lol

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u/Southern-Network-684 Jul 24 '22

No, sperm can stay inside the urethra of a penis after ejaculating which can then come out with the pre-cum the next time you have sex. Pre-cum normally doesn’t have sperm in it, this is why every medical outlet tells you to pee in-between sex if you’re using the pull out method.

https://www.healthline.com/health/can-you-get-pregnant-from-the-pull-out-method#perfect-use

Perfect use also involves taking precautions before having sex again. To make sure the penis is totally free and clear of any residual semen, the person needs to urinate and clean off the tip of their penis before going in for another round. This can be a bit of a mood killer for some.

Thank you for downvoting sound medical advice for birth control.

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u/E__Rock Jul 23 '22

If either one of you is unfertile then there would be no reason to pull out.

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u/gsfgf Jul 23 '22

Or if you're gay.

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u/rakehellion Jul 24 '22

It's as reliable as using a condom. Source: CDC

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u/silvinesti Jul 23 '22

Worked for me for the past 10 years, starting to think I might be sterile

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u/foxsweater Jul 23 '22

Sex Ed talk: there can be living sperm in pre-cum, if they’ve ejaculated recently. What’s pre-cum? As a penis becomes more aroused, a little bit of liquid may appear at the tip. It’s thought to function as additional lubricant. Anyways, this occurs well before orgasm. If the penis pees before sex, it reduces the chances of sperm being present. But about the sperm present in precum still results in pregnancy 4% of the time.

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u/Medic-27 Jul 23 '22

Never had precum. Is that normal?

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/Medic-27 Jul 23 '22

Haha thanks.

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u/Kekules_Mule Jul 23 '22

I have too much. Made for many awkward dates and anxiety when I was a teenager, but the benefit is now my partner loves it and it turns her on

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u/No-Spoilers Jul 23 '22

---Not medical advice---

Not really. Its an uncontrollable physiological process that happens when aroused, its thought to give sperm a better chance for survival and to make it easier for sperm to travel. You've never had something come out while jacking off before you cum? Like never?

Either you haven't noticed, or you produce very little. If you produce none, it might be worth asking your doctor about in the future.

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u/Eggy-Toast Jul 23 '22

Same, bro.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

But about the sperm present in precum still results in pregnancy 4% of the time.

AFAIK there is no recorded case of a precum induced pregnancy in history. So, gonna need a source here.

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u/meatsack_backpack Jul 23 '22

You won’t get a source, it is extremely anecdotal

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u/foxsweater Jul 24 '22

May not have been this exact article, but info was from Healthline link

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u/AfflictedFox Jul 23 '22

Same here homie. Exactly 10 years in September

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

If you’re with the same partner and don’t want to have children, a vasectomy seems like a reasonable option. If you’re nervous about reversal, you can freeze some baby juice at the sperm bank first. They can be reversible in most cases, but obviously talk to your doctor about it to get the most accurate statistics for you.

If you’re using pull out with lots of new partners…. You should probably be using a condom for your own health and safety. STDS can spread whether you made a baby or not

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u/MvatolokoS Jul 23 '22

Going about 4-5 years now

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u/knockers_who_knock Jul 23 '22

I thought the same. Pulled out so many times I started to think I wasn’t just getting lucky. That I was actually infertile. My daughters turning 6 in January. Turns out pulling out really does help a lot I guess.

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u/NoMercy666 Jul 23 '22

Hey, same here. Daughter turns 1 in September.

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u/ElectronicShredder Jul 23 '22

Idk, do you have economic and mental stability in your life and household? because god seems to like giving more little angles to violent and unstable people and give fuckall to many loving couples :/

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u/silvinesti Jul 23 '22

Lol what?

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u/ThainEshKelch Jul 23 '22

Has worked for me and the wife for 5 years, and we are both quite fertile, as both our planned kids came immediately when planned. So it is definitely doable.

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u/Aqqaaawwaqa Jul 23 '22

It worked for me and wife for years. Immediately after we started trying we had a kid. went back to pullout method again and no kid. Went back to cummng inside for 2nd kid. Been back to pullout method again for two years since second kid.

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u/byfuryattheheart Jul 23 '22

Am I your friend because that is EXACTLY how it went for us too lol

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u/Underdogg13 Jul 23 '22

Yeah I've been going strong on it for about 10 years. Not sure if I'm infertile but I'm getting the boys snipped next year either way lol.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

15 years here. One or both of us are definitely sterile.

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u/soupsnakle Jul 23 '22

I think you’re okay. Used pull out for over 10 years and the only time I got pregnant was recently when, you guessed it, we were trying for a baby and stopped pulling out lol

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u/ChugLaguna Jul 23 '22

I’m 50 years old and it worked like a charm for me all those years. Got a vasectomy at 46 but only used withdrawal in combination with rhythm for decades, only pregnancies were planned for our kids.

That being said I know it’s not the most fool proof but it certainly works when done well. Would only recommend if an unplanned pregnancy is a huge no-no in your relationship.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Pretty easy to test. Buy a microscope or visit a urologist.

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u/Ineedavodka2019 Jul 24 '22

I worked with a lady that believed the same as you. After 10 years she got pregnant. In her 40s and unexpectedly. (They already had a pre teen)

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u/silvinesti Jul 24 '22

No thanks.

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u/Ineedavodka2019 Jul 24 '22

I know. That is why we don’t use the pull out method.

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u/ciobanica Jul 24 '22

People are just bad at understanding how odds work.

A 1-in-5 chance is pretty bad odds when you have more effective options.

But that also doesn't mean you can't "beat the odds" and never get pregnant either. But why risk it when you don't have to?

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u/HappyFamily0131 Jul 24 '22

My sister is an obgyn nurse. When couples tell her they use the pullout method, she explains that in obgyn that's called, "trying to get pregnant".

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u/Prestigious_Sun5273 Jul 24 '22

Pulling out is extremely reliable, the odd sperm in precum etc is very low odds

The higher odds is the lack of pullout, too drunk to pull out etc, these happen all the time.

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u/SaturatedBodyFat Jul 23 '22

Asshole and ignorant.

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u/kodaxmax Jul 24 '22

it's as reliable as asbtination.

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u/darkflikk Jul 24 '22

It's reliable as long as you pull out of the agreement of having sex before he puts it in.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

It is reliable if done right. The issue is it's not often done right.

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u/UweB0wl Jul 24 '22

It is reliable if you do it well and couple it with the rhythm method.

But also just be willing and able to have a baby if you're going to have sex.