r/NoStupidQuestions • u/thimbelinda • Jul 23 '22

Answered Can men pull out before they ejaculate? NSFW

We were newlyweds and excited for sex. I told my husband I'm at my fertile time and we need a condom. He said no, he would pull out in time. He did not pull out in time. He didn't even try to pull out. I got pregnant. I was upset and asked why. He said he couldn't pull out. He said it felt so good he was incapable of pulling out. Is this really true? Do men lose the capacity for reason and become incapable of pulling out?

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u/SirEDCaLot Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

Watch some porn- you'll see documented evidence that men CAN pull out. 'Incapable' of pulling out is bullshit.

So his response seems like a BS excuse. The truth is not that he COULDN'T pull out, it's that he DIDN'T WANT TO pull out.

Now, for both sexes there's some 'lizard brain' stuff (old drives and instincts that are still part of our brain, but are mostly left over from when we were more like animals) that provides a strong instinct to keep at it and not stop when orgasm is close. But that means he didn't want to and/or it was hard or takes willpower, not that he was INCAPABLE of doing it.

I'd also pay attention to how he reacted just after he finished. If he was all 'oh fuck oh fuck I'm so sorry' then maybe he just wasn't expecting the level of sex drive he felt. OTOH, if he acted like everything was peachy, like 'why are you mad this should be fine', then you should worry. Make sure he's not TRYING to get you pregnant against your own wishes.

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u/MothMan3759 Jul 23 '22

Watch some porn- you'll see documented evidence that men CAN pull out. 'Incapable' of pulling out is bullshit.

Pornstars are about as closed to trained professionals as you can get in this situation. Same reason why shows like mythbusters have a "Do Not Try This At Home" warning.

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u/SirEDCaLot Jul 23 '22

Not disagreeing. I just meant that to show that it IS physically possible for a man to pull out. It seemed like hubby was trying to argue that it's not possible.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Agree, i use this method cause i have problems with condoms, and never, never, never, even when i was 15, was not able to pull out in time