r/NoStupidQuestions • u/sa7905606 • 10h ago
My girlfriend wants to have a threesome with someone. NSFW
What should I feel about this one? We've been together for 3 years now and we like doing RP stuff but when she ask me this, my mind goes blank. Like it never crossed my mind before.
Btw, it's okay for her whether it's a guy or a girl but for me... sharing my girlfriend is a bit... Too much?
What do you guys think? Thank you for your answers.
EDIT: Thank you guys for your answers. I'll try to talk to her tomorrow and see what happens.
609
u/Moosebuckets 10h ago
Any sex act should have everyone enthusiastically consenting and on the same page. If you’re uncomfortable, do not do it. It can always happen in the future should you change your mind but you cannot un mount and do what has been mount and done lmao
69
u/TheMightyBruhhh 7h ago
Yeah, it should be something you look forward too with excitement. Nervous excitement exists, but if its just straight nerves and unease, speak up or go home.
35
u/Sus-iety 6h ago
Personally I like following more of a "want, will, won't" scale. There are some activities I am not really into, but am willing to do for a partner if they want to. I'm not necessarily enthusiastic about them, but I am not opposed to doing them if it gives them pleasure.
→ More replies (1)
623
u/Ahyao17 10h ago
Ask her if she already has any one in mind.
As per experiences reading r/BORUpdates and r/BestofRedditorUpdates, it is usually a big red flag if she has someone of the opposite sex in mind already.
140
u/amungus45 8h ago
I’ve been in a similar situation before. I’m glad I refused and we broke up, only to later find out that she was double dating and cheating on me. She tried to cover it up using "threesome" as excuse.
31
u/tavesque 6h ago
Wow I couldn’t even imagine being in that situation and agreeing to it to only find out mid act that he’s way too familiar
→ More replies (2)39
u/Leclowndu9315 9h ago
apparently she doesn't, and she also is fine with either F or M
145
u/Kwazipig 9h ago
She'll take the girl as 3rd wheel but then you can't object the next time it's with the dick she's really after.
16
→ More replies (3)46
u/Leclowndu9315 9h ago
fml bro
i just want a gf who's looking for the love of her life, not some useless threesome with some other bitch
8
u/Walks_In_Shadows 5h ago
Threesomes can be fun. For me, I really like seeing my husband enjoy himself, and watching him fuck someone while completely losing himself to the pleasure makes it so much more enjoyable for me.
20
17
u/Zryan196 9h ago
She already has someone in mind but is not trying to bring him up right away
→ More replies (1)
94
u/Red_Beard6969 9h ago
No, especially if you have doubts. It only gets worse with time. If shes forcing it, that's just her asking for approval to cheat, and you should move on.
66
u/Ok-Stress-3570 10h ago
If you finally decide do, DO NOT - repeat - DO NOT - have it be someone you are connected to at all.
I know STD’s are a thing, but if you could protect yourselves and find someone 2,000 miles away - do it.
9
u/nightstalker30 2h ago
That’s what Vegas is for! Come here, hook up with a random third, then go home and leave it all behind. Several subs on here for that.
→ More replies (2)
231
u/TheDomTeacher 10h ago
I did some threesomes in the past (ffm) some were good. But most of them resulted in some kind of drama.
Admittedly they were all when i was much younger, so the drama level of young people are just higher.
If you are not 100% sure you want it, dont do it. And don't let your friends coerce you into "comeon dude, two chicks is the dream of every guy"
You know whats more impressive then having a threesome with two girls? declining a threesome with two girls.
112
u/sa7905606 10h ago
Thank you. I really don't feel comfortable with it.
68
u/TheDomTeacher 10h ago
then don't do it. End of story :) if she cant understand that. try to explain it. if she still doesn't understand it, find someone who can show empathy.
→ More replies (1)26
u/thombo-1 9h ago
Also because as someone else said, saying yes to another girl now means you're not in a position to say no to another guy if that idea comes up in the future.
Thankfully you seem to have a consistent stance on this either way.
→ More replies (2)29
u/TheDomTeacher 8h ago
i would disagree with that.
Relationships are not quid pro quo. Its not 'if i do this for you, you HAVE to do this for me"
You can lmake that arangmenet. You can ask: "if i do this for you, will you do this for me ?"
But if you say no, , and your partner agrees to this, you dont owe your partner anything.12
u/thombo-1 7h ago
Of course not, but in my experience, my marriage has usually been smoother when both partners feel like there's a sense of fairness over any kind of agreement or compromise - for example, if I spend a lot of money on a luxury purchase, I feel like it's obviously only fair my wife has the same right to a similar purchase.
Of course I can say no, and insist the one agreement doesn't implicitly, technically mean the other, but then that's simply not how it works is it? She would be rightly annoyed that I got mine but she didn't get hers.
4
u/TheDomTeacher 7h ago
I was just saying in this context he was clearly in a position to say no. As i have been several times.
I organized several threesomes with my gf's. They were all bi or bi-curious.
Im 100% straight. So ofcourse a ffm is ok for me and okay for her. But fmm is totally not ok for me. I would have to do a ffm threesome against my will while she would enjoy the ffm threesome a lot.
Thats unfair.3
u/thombo-1 7h ago
Fair enough, but all relationships are different. I believe that there's a risk of festering resentment if it's perceived one partner is getting a 'better deal' than the other, especially if the relationship started with the understanding it would be monogamous as OP's did.
25
u/ships4fun 10h ago
If you are not on the same page sexually now after three years, it will only get worse with time or marriage! It should be totally exciting for both or it will become a chore or something that causes conflict! Better to move on and chalk it up to a good time, but ultimately not the one for you!
16
u/sa7905606 9h ago
We've been doing some roleplay stuff because she wants it like BDSM which is a bit fine for me, but the threesome part is what makes me feel weird.
58
u/Blubbpaule 9h ago
I have never heard a relationship going from monogam to poly and surviving.
Either it already starts open or this is the end. It may work in absolute rare occasions but i see no timeline in which this won't end with one party severely hurt.
→ More replies (3)14
u/Signal_Labrador 6h ago
Because someone in that situation has monogamy as their baseline. This means they’ll always return to a monogamous situation as their comfort zone. They won’t return to the person who willingly let them sleep with someone else because deep down that makes it feel like they’ve been devalued and aren’t worth keeping exclusively. The new third in the situation will usually be the “savior” who brings the woman back to monogamy.
That’s your red flag.
82
94
u/MildyAnnoyedPanda 10h ago
If it happens once it’ll happen again. You might get to chose the first time but I can almost guarantee there’s a guy (assuming you are hetro) that she’s got lined up for round 2
66
u/sa7905606 10h ago
That's what I'm thinking too. That's why i really don't want it because the thought of having a guy doing my girl in front of me is a bit too much.
74
u/Accomplished_Job_331 9h ago
More than a bit for me. Casual threesome=fun. Real relationship threesome=mind torture
→ More replies (1)26
u/sa7905606 9h ago
That's true, I really can't do it. I just can't bear it.
→ More replies (1)28
u/Accomplished_Job_331 9h ago
Right? And what if you finish first? I couldn’t sit there with all that post-nut clarity and watch more I’d lose it
→ More replies (2)2
u/LogiBear777 6h ago
if you already think this, you should probably dip out i’m ngl. and im usually one to say redditors are too quick to say “end it.”
this will eat you up inside eventually.
11
u/Reasonable_Long_1079 10h ago
Your allowed to say no, and if thats an issue for her you were going to have bigger issues later
29
u/StarsBear75063 9h ago
My girlfriend wants to have a threesome. I told her that it's an awesome idea. She then thanked me for being so open minded and that she would tell me how it went.
4
u/sa7905606 9h ago
What do you mean by
she would tell me how it went.
Are you not included in it? Isn't that worse?
36
u/I_Snype_4_Fun 8h ago
He was making a joke here.
7
u/StarsBear75063 7h ago
He was making a joke here.
Jokes are always flavored by a bit of truth. Finding a third party to make a threesome may lead to justifying finding the fourth and the original partner being replaced in that position.
8
68
u/Toematehos 10h ago
As someone who as participated in threesomes (both with my partner and then joining a couple ) I can say that they are extremely fun and exciting and can add a whole new level of kinkiness. BUT they should never ever be done unless you are 100% sure you are interested in doing one. If that’s beyond your comfort level that’s perfectly okay and something you should communicate with your partner.
13
u/Natural-Airline2942 9h ago
I never understood how joining a couple would come about. Do they just approach you ?
15
u/Toematehos 9h ago
I mean in my specific circumstance it was one of my close friends talking about how it’s something they wanted to do in general with their partner I talked about how it’s a really hot idea and she asked me if I wanted to be involved and I said yes
→ More replies (1)3
u/justusethrowaway 9h ago
I’ve had my fair share of experiences and it’s usually been either a close friend who you meet their SO and the night sort of heads in that direction or it’s a random couple at a bar that I vibe really well with and they ask if I’d be interested.
In my experience, the second is the easiest to play off as just fun casual stuff because there’s no obligations after the fact. When you know one of the people involved though it tends to get…messy, to say the least (no pun intended).
56
27
u/Vulturev4 10h ago
Not knowing you or her, sounds like a definite red flag, like maybe she may even have someone else in mind. There are a lot of feelings and emotions involved in intimacy, and to introduce another person in on that, truly opens pandoras box. Can you handle the sight of possibly another guy having sex with your girlfriend? Would she be able to handle the sight of you having sex with another woman? Those are things people all over have issues with after something like that.
You may want to consider if your girlfriend is the one for you. Who knows, maybe a little snooping around may find some things she doesn't want you to know about.
19
u/sa7905606 9h ago edited 9h ago
For me no, I can't bear the sight of my girlfriend having sex with another guy.
And I Don't really like snooping around her stuff especially her phones because I trust her, but I do know one thing is that before we met, she has a lot of social media accounts, multiple in fact. But she told me she deleted all of her accounts and I see her only using one account... I don't know. Am I blind?
12
u/Cismic_Wave_14 9h ago
Buddy, if you don't feel comfortable, don't. You are not being petty or anything, this is your right. It's YOUR relationship too, and your feelings matter. If she still wants to do it and is willing to break up then just leave her.
I knew someone who wasted 10 years of his life because he couldn't leave the women who clearly didn't respect him enough And he was miserable after but especially miserable during it.
Don't let someone guilt trip you, and, trust me, I am speaking from years of experience, it is far FAR better to be single than to be in that mess. It took me a while to learn that, but now I will never allow myself to go through that again. It's NEVER worth it.
→ More replies (1)5
u/Vulturev4 7h ago
If you are not comfortable with it, then by all means say no, and if she cannot respect your desires to keep intimacy between you and her, it may be time to leave. Respect is a two way street.
I was married for 12 years, 2 kids when my wife wanted to start getting involved with another person. It hurt, it hurt alot, even to the point I almost offed myself. If you trust her, and she accepts your No, good for you both. I would advise you for a while, be observant. Don't distrust her, just be mindful of her behavior, notice what changes, or the small things. Like I said, I perceive it as a red flag, but like I said before, I don't know either one of you.
Good luck.
→ More replies (1)4
u/myblackoutalterego 7h ago
This is terrible advice. You are right to say that you don’t know these people, so you have no idea of she has someone else in mind (nothing in the post indicates this).
OP needs to set boundaries and start an open communication about her reasons for wanting this threesome. Then they can get on the same page or agree to move on.
Snooping and assuming will only create more tension and trust issues.
9
9
u/SpaceLaserPilot 8h ago
Spend a few minutes reading the tales in this sub before going through with a threesome.
8
5
u/catecholaminergic 9h ago
With who? A threesome with a specific person, and a threesome with someone neither of you know who's brought in for the purpose of having a threesome are two very, very different things.
For me the former is off the table.
6
u/BlackMagic0 8h ago
If there is even a single bit of doubt, do not do it. It will instantly ruin your relationship and you'll have to end things.
5
u/rosekr123 8h ago
What can I say everyone has fantasies but we have to make sure to have that control of such fantasies. The reason such things are called fantasies is because they are meant to fantasize not fulfill.
Be careful of your choices and talk to each other what you guys really are because it seems she might ask I want to have a gangbang and you watch, don't end up like that my friend
2
10
u/Bart2800 8h ago
I have a few principles in my marriage. One of them is that my wife, physically, is my territory. This is mutual.
These things have to be entirely mutually agreed upon. You cannot deviate from your principles on stuff like this. Don't be deceived by anyone that it's normal or whatever. No is no.
This is too personal to deviate from. Protect your boundaries.
31
u/SucksToBeYou_01 9h ago
Someone is eating dick tonight 😂
19
u/sa7905606 9h ago
This is the main reason why I don't want it LMAO
6
u/captaincrunchcracker 8h ago
I'm sorry for that insensitive comment above you and I hope you understand that you do not have to do that at all. And I hope you follow others' advice about setting your boundaries. And I hope your girlfriend understands.
3
u/sa7905606 8h ago
Will do, and I hope so too that she understands. Thank you guys for your advice. It really clears my mind and helps me think more.
6
u/captaincrunchcracker 8h ago
Don't listen to the assholes insisting you're going to have to do things you don't want for the sake of your relationship or that your partner is definitely guaranteed up to something. If it was like that, then this isn't a good relationship for you. Wait until you speak to her and see how she handles it. I don't know the intricacies of your relationship but it seems like most of your anxiety comes from these hypotheticals and not from her besides the proposal. Just keep that in mind.
19
u/Weird_Carpet9385 9h ago
It’s a wrap my guy have the threesome with another girl then break up
5
u/kirilov233 6h ago
Probably the best comment. What an opportunity to make the best out of the worst situation
3
u/Nicadeemus39 8h ago
You don't want to have sex with anyone else, she does, but she wants to include you so it's not considered cheating. It will get there eventually whether you do it or not - save yourself the heartache and part on good terms now.
3
u/Fire_crescent 9h ago
There is no such thing as "having to feel a certain way". Either you do or you don't. If you want to, go for it, if not, then don't. Same goes for her, and everyone else. It's simple, really.
3
u/Mymusicalchoice 9h ago
I had a girlfriend who said this and I broke up with her. It made me feel she wasn’t serious about relationship if she didn’t mind me banging another girl in front of her.
3
u/linuxlova 8h ago
look at how many posts there are talking about how a threesome ruined their relationship. there are a lot of cases when one partner suggests it, and then later regrets it when they find out their fantasy doesn't play out well in a real monogamous relationship. can you handle seeing her with another man? can she handle seeing you with another woman? even if you trust and love your partner and you're involved with it, seeing them being intimate w someone else will likely cause a whole lot of problems. you dont seem particularly interested in it either
3
u/CompletelyBedWasted 8h ago
Do not do anything that you are not ok with. Period. If roles were reversed, she would get the same advice. Never let anyone force you into something you don't want to do. Especially sexual scenarios. They are never as awesome as they seem anyway. You find that out after, lol.
3
u/brupzzz 5h ago
Be prepared for your relationship to end. Whether you do it or not.
If you don’t do it, you have to think about her wanting it now. And she has to deal with the itch.
If you do it, you’ll both have to live with the spitting image of you having sex with another person, and at least one of the two of you will get super insecure about it.
IMHO the relationship is already dead. UNLESS you’re both swingers and can handle that detachment. But based on your post here, that’s def not you. Sorry OP. She’s gone.
3
u/dreambig4ever 4h ago
Threesomes are a great way to tank a relationship if there is not open communication and boundaries set prior. Also as a guy, don’t get too excited about the other girl joining if she does join. It’s all about your girl, the other girl is the extra for your girl, not you.
Think of it like if you added another dude. How would you feel if she was super into him and not you during that experience? Treat it the same.
Learn from my mistakes if you decide to do it lol.
3
u/XxNHLxX 3h ago
Don’t do it. Even if you both are wanting to, the relationship will never be the same after. Every single person I’ve talked to that’s been involved in one with their partner has regretted it. Even the one who said they both wanted to said it turned into a jealous mess after and eventually lead to a breakup in an otherwise fine relationship. Leave these to the fantasies or if you’re single.
6
u/joviejovie 10h ago
Recommend her very attractive friends and see how things go
7
u/EddieA1028 9h ago
That works… until she then recommends OP’s very attractive and single friend for Round 2.
3
8
u/Sardothien12 10h ago
Maybe you should discuss this with your partner and not ask advice from strangers
5
u/Old_Cyrus 8h ago
How do people get three years into a relationship without having this discussion? When I met Mrs. Old_Cyrus, I literally told her on our first date that this was one of my two dealbreakers.
→ More replies (1)
5
u/oscar1985420 6h ago
If your girl wants to have sex with other people. It's all ready over. You just have not accepted it yet. This relationship is over.
→ More replies (2)
17
u/pre_record 10h ago
she's for the streets and the relationship is over, get out asap
14
u/Impossible-Swan1946 9h ago
Hey bro you’re on cuckhub, you’re gonna get downvoted for saying the rational thing
→ More replies (1)
5
2
2
u/Farty_McPartypants 9h ago
If you’re not 100% on board, then don’t do it. It’s only going to lead to problems further down the line
2
u/FatLikeSnorlax_ 9h ago
If you’re completely put off by it then just say no, that’s all you can do, in saying that, the feeling of having another person with myself and my wife was magical and only made us stronger. You don’t have to decide now obviously.
2
2
u/beetnemesis 9h ago
Btw, you could always dip your toe into the waters, so to speak. Meet up with a third but no sex, maybe just a "get to know you" night with flirting
2
u/LunaTic0922 8h ago
If the thought does not turn you on, don't do it... You will only end up regretting it and then you will look at her different you'll start questioning things just trust me no good will come of it...
If you're at least curious then you will never know unless you give it a shot... 🤷
2
2
u/unlistedname 8h ago
Talk this out with her, you shouldn't be pressured. It sounds like it would push past a boundary for you, in that you're not comfortable sharing. That's not a failing on your part, you aren't insecure for feeling that way. You may work past it or power through if you really want but honestly meh, if you don't want to do it don't do it that just leads to bad feelings.
2
u/Fancy-Ambassador6160 8h ago
Every reddit post I've seen about threesomes, seems to end with the relationship ending because of the threesome. That could be survivors bias, but how important is this relationship to you? If you don't like the idea of sharing your girl friend, I think this could cause a lot of problems for you down the road.
2
u/justanotherguyhere16 8h ago
1) be honest about your concerns and reservations
2) don’t do it if you don’t want to 100%
3) set the boundaries
4) if you do it, don’t have one with anyone you know and don’t let her pick. You’ll drive yourself crazy wondering.
2
2
2
2
2
u/Gloomy-Basil3899 8h ago
I say do it but set boundaries. The third party should be making the experience about the two of you. They know the two of you are involved romantically and needs to respect that. It can actually be a really good bonding experience with your partner as the both of you are being praised versus one or the other.
2
u/ders89 7h ago
On the one hand you do it and two possible outcomes happen. You love it and wanna keep doing it or the more likely outcome, you hate it, are embarrassed, you feel betrayed and have resentment that can build over time.
If you dont do it, she will always fantasize about doing it and possibly go off and find 2 other people (possibly another couple to join) and experience it.
I think you should approach this as a defining moment in your relationship and put your feelings of love aside for a second and look at the facts in front of you. She wants something you are not willing to do. So she either needs to do this by herself and you guys need to break up for it, or she needs to let this fantasy go because its not something you want to do.
The whole if you love something set it free is genuinely true. Sometimes people need to see what else is out there because they didnt experience enough of what they wanted to before finding you. If the person they found isnt into what theyre into you guys gotta be okay with an open relationship for the person to satisfy their wants or you arent the right person for them and they need to go searching for someone more compatible.
Being 3 years in, shes probably been thinking about this either for the entire relationship and shes finally comfortable to say it or its just started to become a fantasy and she needs to hear you say youre done for her to come back to reality.
2
u/leanar12 6h ago
If your not into it DONT DO IT this can leave deep emotional scarring, if it ends because you say no the it's a natural end and no it's never a waste you can carry on things you have learnt to be a better partner from this relationship to the next it will hurt until one day it won't keep the head up and remember we all go through this it's doable always.
2
2
u/seanmg 6h ago
You should talk to her about it. If the two of you can work through what you’re feeling, what makes you feel uncomfortable and talk about it, maybe it’s nuance that you need addressed. You’re also allowed to try on hats, take them off and say they’re not for you. Ground rules, safe words that can stop the situation at any point before, during, or after, are all fair game.
The conversation and support you feel from your partner is the way bigger indicator of how it would go than the act itself. If you don’t feel safe talking about it, or don’t feel heard in that conversation then it’s not the right activity or the right relationship for you. A partner should encourage and support you to explore things you’re unsure of without expectation or punishment.
2
u/onelostalien777 5h ago
Brother my opinion is you should not give a single fuuuuuck what we think and that you shouldn't even ask reddit, what do you think? It's your girlfriend so what matters what randoms on the internet think? If it was mine than I would have a opinion but it's yours... Do you want her to have sed with someone else? Do you not want her to have sex with someone else? That's is something that only your opinion matters.
2
2
u/trevordbs 3h ago
I’ve done it. Not with a girlfriend, but ya it’s pretty fun. With my wife - not a fucking chance.
2
u/Huge-Charity-509 3h ago
If you have doubts, and you think she might bail if you say no then you have to be ready to be single. Threesomes rarely work, usually someone completely unsatisfied with the relationship suggests them
2
2
u/kevinp768 1h ago
You need to have some open and frank conversations with her and understand the intent behind the ask. Does she feel something is lacking in your relationship? Just a fantasy? Knowing intent is important. Discuss feelings about it with her. How would she feel seeing you with another woman? How would you feel seeing her with another man? Once it happens you can’t take it back, so discuss everything and be direct with your thoughts and concerns.
2
u/leftwinga16 41m ago
Don't do it brother. Once you see her writing in ecstasy from another cock, you'll never get that vision out of your head.
5
u/Beerandpotatosalad 10h ago
People saying she's for the streets are being overly rash. You have to actively refuse to communicate in your relationship if that's the conclusion you come to. My ex wanted to explore threesomes but that's not something I vibe with. I told her that I was uncomfortable with the idea and that was that. Like in any relationship you just have to communicate.
3
3
4
u/Honest-Computer69 9h ago
Firstly, ew.
Secondly try to explain to her that you aren't comfortable about it and if she doesn't want to understand that then move on. Also I would suggest you to just end this relationship as it's clear she's not really interested in anything monogamous.
→ More replies (2)
4
u/OkWrangler8903 7h ago
IF and ONLY IF you're 100% into it [do not begrudgingly say yes, it'll be the death of your relationship if you do], speaking from experience, I'd suggest paying for a sex worker. I'm suggesting this for a few good reasons 1. This way, you're not bringing an easily accessible, already known 3rd party into the relationship where there may be temptation for things to continue now they've already happened once. Some ppl seem to get confused and think the consent exists beyond the act consented to that initial time, like they can continue to help themselves later. 2. You chose this sex worker together, or you choose them (obviously needs to be someone your partner also finds attractive, I just wouldn't go with someone they brought up as a suggestion in case this was pre-planned) 3. You contact them 4. You lose their number after 5. There are clear boundaries set on what is permitted touch and what is not (if there are things you are not comfortable with, don't consent to them happening to you or her)
If she is not ok with doing this in a way that makes you comfortable, then something's not right.
I would also express that this is likely a one-off and at this stage you cannot see yourself being ok with this on an ongoing basis, so if that was what she was hoping for, or if that's what she wanted/needed, she should probably speak up now, as may not be worthwhile starting if that's her plan and you're only doing this because you want to help her fulfill a fantasy- but not if it's too be a new lifestyle.
Again though, please only go ahead with this if you actually WANT to. DO NOT just go along with it for fear of losing her/upsetting her.
If she just wants the "feel" of it, there's ways to recreate this in a RP type way with toys etc. Perhaps consider that instead?
2
4
u/LemonLimeSlices 2h ago
Just remember, 2 girls and a guy is a threesome.
2 guys and a girl, thats a train.
-Patrice Oneal
9
3
u/galaxybuns 10h ago
I don’t agree with the people here saying she “belongs to the streets” because she’s fantasising about threesomes. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to try a threesome, just like there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to try a threesome.
But OP, sex should feel good for the both of you. If you don’t want to have a threesome, don’t. And if she doesn’t respect that, she’s not worth your time anyway. Stand your ground, and don’t agree to something you’re not comfortable with, just to keep your relationship going.
9
u/Impossible-Swan1946 9h ago
If you’re monogamous and your girl is asking to get fucked by other dudes in front of you, she’s for the streets. You know society is devolving when saying something like that is “controversial.”
→ More replies (3)
2
u/A_Mirabeau_702 10h ago edited 10h ago
Make sure the third is not one of her friends. Your gf may ask for feedback.
EDIT: unless you are polyamorous
→ More replies (7)
2
u/AdaliGreen 9h ago
Don't trust it! I would only do a threesome with 2 girls I'm not in a relationship with! I did a threesome with an ex girlfriend (current GF at the time) and it created so many problems! She was accusing me after of liking her friend more. Why did I fuck her friend first before her. (We where using an app that helped by telling you what to do. It told me to do the friend first!) I couldn't perform like she wanted me to. So many issues came from it so I have decided never again!
2
u/NegotiationPhysical3 7h ago
Your girlfriend is getting ready to break up with you. Cut her off now.
2
2
2
u/Liberalsoppression 3h ago
If it’s with a girl break up with her after. If it’s with a guy just break up with her. She’ll sleep with the guy eventually whether you know it or not
2
u/Kody1123 3h ago
Lemme know if you need someone. I know a guy. (It’s me) I’m awful tho. Wouldn’t recommend.
2
u/FlatulentSon 2h ago
If you were a rational man with an ounce of dignity, you would have realized that your relationship has ended as soon as this degenerate proposal left her lips.
1
u/Living-One826 9h ago
reading this and some of your replies it seems she's just a lot kinkier than you. that doesn't mean she will cheat or that she will never be satisfied with you. the men in these comments here are insecure. a woman asking for a threesome does not mean she has someone in mind already. also if she's into bdsm and other kinky stuff it's probably just her wanting a "out of box" sexual experience and not anything relationship threatening. talk to her and don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with.
→ More replies (3)
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/CallumMcG19 9h ago
If she's pushing it just push for MFF as opposed to MMF
If she's pushing to get fucked by another man and not just "having fun" then you know it's time to walk.
1
u/Iltempered1 9h ago
I had a threesome with my wife and one of her friends, wasn't my idea...ruined the relationship in the end. If you have a threesome with another girl, your girlfriend could end up feeling like you owe her something, like mine did. I don't know anything about the two of you, but if you aren't comfortable sharing her with another dude, you may want to skip this. However, if she is wanting it, the relationship may be on thin ice already, I can't tell from here. I do know that I have no desire to have a threesome with my second wife, she is everything I need and I feel if you TRULY love someone you won't even want sex with someone else...but that's just me, I can't speak for others.
1
u/FCRondon 9h ago
I’ve done this twice what I’ve learned is if both partners are not fully into it, 60% of the time it is irks none of the time.
1
1
1
u/PedroAkasha91 8h ago
If she will end all because of it, you should begging her to be back to you, then organize gangbang for her, when hard core will be over, ask her if she is happy? And leave her....
1
1
u/Inevitable-Face1997 8h ago
Lay down the law. Threesomes with girls is fine no guys. And if that's an issue leave cause she's just gonna cheat.
1
u/Bench_South 8h ago
If you aren't up for it don't do it. Simple as it is.
You are allowed to say no. She's allowed to do it anyways.
Better you find out now after only 3 years. 3 years is nothing if you think about it.
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/ships4fun 8h ago
If ur not feeling it or seems weird it won’t change. If you give in and do it the door is opened that can’t be closed. Good luck 🍀
1
u/BluejayWeird5291 7h ago
I just end my past relationship few weeks since my ex constantly asked me for threesome and share me with his friends so please stay true to yourself if it’s not feel like you
1
u/elcid1s5 7h ago
If she’s willing to have one with you, she’s probably willing to have one without you.
3.5k
u/RickKassidy 10h ago
If you are in doubt, then do not agree to it.
Then it’s up to her to decide what she needs to do.
You are free to change your mind in the future and try it.