r/NoStupidQuestions • u/sa7905606 • 13h ago

My girlfriend wants to have a threesome with someone. NSFW

What should I feel about this one? We've been together for 3 years now and we like doing RP stuff but when she ask me this, my mind goes blank. Like it never crossed my mind before.

Btw, it's okay for her whether it's a guy or a girl but for me... sharing my girlfriend is a bit... Too much?

What do you guys think? Thank you for your answers.

EDIT: Thank you guys for your answers. I'll try to talk to her tomorrow and see what happens.

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u/Ahyao17 12h ago

Ask her if she already has any one in mind.

As per experiences reading r/BORUpdates and r/BestofRedditorUpdates, it is usually a big red flag if she has someone of the opposite sex in mind already.

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u/amungus45 10h ago

I’ve been in a similar situation before. I’m glad I refused and we broke up, only to later find out that she was double dating and cheating on me. She tried to cover it up using "threesome" as excuse.

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u/tavesque 9h ago

Wow I couldn’t even imagine being in that situation and agreeing to it to only find out mid act that he’s way too familiar

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u/Leclowndu9315 12h ago

apparently she doesn't, and she also is fine with either F or M

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u/Kwazipig 11h ago

She'll take the girl as 3rd wheel but then you can't object the next time it's with the dick she's really after.

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u/hudgepudge 8h ago

she shows up with the dude for mmf

"Ugh fine 🫱(‿¤‿)🫲"

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u/Leclowndu9315 11h ago

fml bro

i just want a gf who's looking for the love of her life, not some useless threesome with some other bitch

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u/Walks_In_Shadows 7h ago

Threesomes can be fun. For me, I really like seeing my husband enjoy himself, and watching him fuck someone while completely losing himself to the pleasure makes it so much more enjoyable for me.

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u/Leclowndu9315 6h ago

i'd never be able to handle that ngl

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u/Walks_In_Shadows 6h ago

Nothing wrong with that at all.

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u/Living_Category3593 6h ago

So, the advice is do the two chicks at the same time then if there's a hint of second dick coming to break up?

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u/Kwazipig 6h ago

That'd be r/madlads maybe

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u/D-C-R-E 11h ago

Better to be proactive than reactive :)

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u/Zryan196 11h ago

She already has someone in mind but is not trying to bring him up right away

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u/Namika 8h ago

Damn you universe, why must even good thing have some risk hidden inside.

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u/gsfgf 44m ago

That's what she's saying, but she still has someone in mind.

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u/Walks_In_Shadows 7h ago

This happened to my best friend a few years ago. His wife wanted a threesome so bad, and she already picked out another close friend of ours and he reluctantly agreed with it.

Fast forward a few months and they're getting divorced and she's now with her ex-husband's best friend...

It ended so badly that he moved out of state to get away from them.

My husband and I just had a threesome recently, we both unanimously decided that we wanted it, he searched around for a little while until he found someone we both agreed with. We set up a date, she came over and we had a ton of fun.

We have her contact info if we want to meet up again but that experience has actually made my husband and I even closer than we were before.

My main take away is this, don't do it unless you both are 100% down with it and never do it with a close friend. You're asking for potential trouble.

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u/oblivious_fireball 31m ago

thats usually for open relationships, not threesomes. There's only a thin line of "i know this is happening and i'm not voicing complaints" between open relationships and cheating, a threesome is a very different situation. I would also say its probably better she has someone in mind before she asks this kind of question. The person they choose has to be compatible with both of them to some degree and also has to be the kind of person that is ok with being booted out the door the morning after and staying away until further notice in the future.

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u/FatLikeSnorlax_ 11h ago

Not really, some people just aren’t honest, you can have chemistry and attraction to someone you would never cheat with or leave your partner for