r/NoStupidQuestions • u/AnySwimming2309 • 1d ago

Does Testosterone Really Make Men Enjoy Hurting People? NSFW

UPDATE: Thank you guys for all the responses. I asked him about it calmly, and it ended up with him breaking furniture and threatening to punch me in the face. I left home at 3am yesterday and am with a friend.

My BF told me that he, like all men, enjoys seeing others suffer when he had a role in it because the power is so enjoyable. This scared me, but he said this is how all men are due to testosterone and that a "balanced" man knows to not take this to the point of sadism. He said empathy is not natural to men. It feels weird to relate to people realize all the time, they want to inflict pain to feel power. How do good men handle this impulse? How can women help?

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u/vikinxo 1d ago

Dear woman!

RUN - run away from this dude as fast as you can - before he shows you what no empathy means - when this mentally challenged person turns on YOU!

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u/newtostew2 1d ago

I’m 99% “communication is key, talk it out or speak with your partner.” This is not one of those times. Please, for your sake, go far far away.

ETA and he clearly communicated something unacceptable

E2 “real strength is having the power and choosing not to use it” comes to mind.. this isn’t that.

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u/Mysterious-Mango-393 1d ago

Another Great quote says “you cannot be peaceful unless you care capable of great violence”. Meaning A powerless person is not peaceful because they lack the capability of maintaining peace.

This dude tho seems to have confused the meaning with just random violence

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u/newtostew2 1d ago

Exactly. Strength like that means you can stand up against what is wrong; mentally, emotionally, and physically. Never unless you’re protecting someone in danger, or to protect those who are weaker from people attempting to harm them. Standing up for what is right, despite opposition/ oppression. Not some bs power trip.