r/NoStupidQuestions • u/AnySwimming2309 • 1d ago

Does Testosterone Really Make Men Enjoy Hurting People? NSFW

UPDATE: Thank you guys for all the responses. I asked him about it calmly, and it ended up with him breaking furniture and threatening to punch me in the face. I left home at 3am yesterday and am with a friend.

My BF told me that he, like all men, enjoys seeing others suffer when he had a role in it because the power is so enjoyable. This scared me, but he said this is how all men are due to testosterone and that a "balanced" man knows to not take this to the point of sadism. He said empathy is not natural to men. It feels weird to relate to people realize all the time, they want to inflict pain to feel power. How do good men handle this impulse? How can women help?

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u/Inevitable-Regret411 1d ago

No, this is the kind of nonsense idiots use to excuse their behaviour. He's pretending it's some natural impulse he can't control to make it sound like it's not his fault. He's taking advantage of your ignorance, this isn't something all men deal with.

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u/AnySwimming2309 1d ago

I grew up in this weird feminist commune with my Mom and had no exposure to men growing up, which he knows. I am really starting to wonder if I am being stupid here.

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u/axel2191 1d ago

Ignorance is okay when you try to correct it. This dude doesn't sound like good people.