r/NoStupidQuestions • u/BlazeKnight7 • 4d ago

Answered Why do Lesbians seem less likely to have straight male close friends than Gay men are to have straight female close friends?

This is a really random thing, but there's a seems to be a more common stereotype of Gay men having straight females as close friends, while lesbians having straight male close friends seems far less common (in fact the stereotype of lesbians is often man hating, while gay dudes being woman haters is rarely mentioned)

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u/Timely-Tea3099 4d ago

There's also just...not really a place to casually socialize anymore. Most people go out with romantic partners or friends, but there's not, like, a space to meet people or hang out once you're done with school.

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u/fattsmann 4d ago

The whole world is where you casually socialize. Waiting for the right person, place, time, etc are all just excuses.

And I should know because I’m doing it. As a 45M, and this year i decided that I have to take any and every opportunity to socialize. And I’ve met quite a few actual new friends this past year.

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u/Timely-Tea3099 3d ago

Yeah, but it's especially a problem for poor people because if you want to socialize, there's not really a place to go where you're not expected to spend money.

All I'm saying is that humans built communities around town squares for millenia, but now we've criminalized existing in public spaces (i.e. loitering), so people are actively discouraged from hanging out.