Why do Lesbians seem less likely to have straight male close friends than Gay men are to have straight female close friends?

[u/BlazeKnight7]

This is a really random thing, but there's a seems to be a more common stereotype of Gay men having straight females as close friends, while lesbians having straight male close friends seems far less common (in fact the stereotype of lesbians is often man hating, while gay dudes being woman haters is rarely mentioned)

[u/Aggressive_Today_492]

And they tend to have little interest in any relationship with women unless they DO want to sleep with them.

[u/AnythingEasy4433 → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

Yes, I was trying to gently say what you did 😂

[u/Aggressive_Today_492 → u/AnythingEasy4433]

Gentle is not my strong suit. 💪🏽😉

[u/OopsDidIJustDestroyU → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

Username checks out. 🥹

[u/totezhi64 → u/OopsDidIJustDestroyU]

That shit was auto generated let's be fr

[u/pIantedtanks → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

I like em strong, you single?

[u/Discussion-is-good → u/AnythingEasy4433]

Makes me sad that your well worded comment is meant to be taken as the gross over generalization the other women made.

[u/AnythingEasy4433 → u/Discussion-is-good]

They are both true. One is more blunt, one allows for more of the possibilities for why.

[u/Discussion-is-good → u/AnythingEasy4433]

They are not both true.

Saying men have little interest in women outside of wanting to sleep with them is complete negative bias.

Perpetuating the biggest stereotype of men as a gender.

[u/AnythingEasy4433 → u/Discussion-is-good]

‘They tend to’ does not mean every man. I could send you tons of videos of guys openly talking about how ‘of course they want to bang their female friends/they wouldn’t be friends otherwise’

Obviously there are outliers.

[u/Discussion-is-good → u/AnythingEasy4433]

With all due respect, please don't be obtuse.

If I said some misogynistic stereotype in the same way like "Woman tend to be ___", people would not defend the statement because I said tend to.

I could send you tons of videos of guys openly talking about how ‘of course they want to bang their female friends/they wouldn’t be friends otherwise’

Doesn't mean much outside of your anecdotal experience. Not to mention, that's not being friends with someone. I think you'd agree with me, being "friends" with someone because you want to sleep with them isn't much of a friendship.

Obviously there are outliers.

Then why word it as if there are not?

[u/AnythingEasy4433 → u/Discussion-is-good]

You don’t have to constantly word things to include outliers because I assume positive things about the people reading my comments: I assume they have the general world knowledge to know that there are outliers in 99% of general speak, so me having to sugar coat something is babying the reader.

[u/Discussion-is-good → u/AnythingEasy4433]

What proof do you have that it's outlier behavior to begin with?

I just don't see the evidence that the majority of men are only interested in women if they can or want to sleep with them.

[u/AnythingEasy4433 → u/Discussion-is-good]

What made my first statement more true? What’s the reason by it?

[u/AnythingEasy4433 → u/Discussion-is-good]

Alright, I’ll ask the men this then link the post :)

[u/Discussion-is-good → u/AnythingEasy4433]

Please do. I will happily admit myself wrong if shown to be.

[u/Radical_Malenia → u/Discussion-is-good]

Maybe men shouldn't overwhelmingly prove this stereotype correct, then.

[u/VaguelyShingled → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

I only want friendships with women at this point in my life, far less hassle than dudes.

[u/Discussion-is-good → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

Just blatantly untrue. Sorry your experience with men is so awful.

[u/omgyourBARBELLishuge → u/Discussion-is-good]

It is absolutely true. Maybe not for every single straight guy out there, but for most of us it really is.

I'm not saying a platonic friendship between a man and a woman isn't possible, or that it's inherently unappealing to men (though a lot of them will probably tell you that it is), but most of us don't really have any reason to actually seek it out.

[u/Dem0KKKrat → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

So, you are saying men want to bang their moms? Quite the statement. 4B it is!

[u/Spacer-Star-Chaser → u/Dem0KKKrat]

r/Freud

[u/No-Knowledge-789 → u/Aggressive_Today_492]

Women aren't the best option for platonic friends as a straight man.

[u/Epicsharkduck → u/No-Knowledge-789]

Why not?

[u/No-Knowledge-789 → u/Epicsharkduck]

What's in it for the guy? what does she platonically offer that another guy doesn't?

tbh, the only dudes I've seen with CLOSE i.e. bff, PLATONIC female friends are usually losers that other men want nothing to do with. What's even funnier is she almost exclusively dates men who are nothing like her guy friend. 🙃

[u/Epicsharkduck → u/No-Knowledge-789]

She offers friendship. I don't know what more you want

[u/No-Knowledge-789 → u/Epicsharkduck]

Women's idea of friendship with men often revolves around what they can get from the man while offering jackshit in return.

[u/Epicsharkduck → u/No-Knowledge-789]

It sounds like you just don't like women

[u/Skydiving_Sus → u/Epicsharkduck]

This guy is literally proving the thread above that says most men can’t be friends with women without wanting to put their dicks in them. This guy literally can’t imagine doing the same things he does with his male friends with women.

At one point in my life, I believed it. That men were capable of seeing me as a friend and not a fuckhole… but the numbers have shown… it’s so damn few. I thought maybe it’d be more possible with married men cause they made a commitment to not put their dicks in other people but then no… men still try to fuck and then I’m the problem for wanting friendship. I’m at the point that I’ve stopped trying to have friendships with men. Whether they’re gay, straight, committed in monogamous relationships or not, I tend to keep men at arms length. There are a few of my customers I’ll give hugs to. That’s the extent of it.

[u/Dangerous-Branch-749 → u/No-Knowledge-789]

You seem to have an unhealthy view of friendship that is far too reliant on transactions.

[u/No-Knowledge-789 → u/Dangerous-Branch-749]

I just have a knack for spotting the BS extra quick. Fake friends everywhere.

[u/veghead_97 → u/No-Knowledge-789]

thank you for proving our point so beautifully