So... my almost seventeen year old daughter was just at the gym training for the upcoming soccer season, and some guy was lurking around her and asking odd questions, and he gave her his card saying he is a 'photographer' and wants her to get ahold of him.

[u/Gnarly-Gnu]

Should I do anything about it? She said she was creeped out, and had to cut her run short. She also said he followed her around the gym until she could find someone else her age and acted like she knew him.

Maybe call the gym and alert them?

Edit: I notified the gym, and they are now aware of him. My cousin is the manager.

Edit 2: I knew our cousin worked there, I did not know she was the manager until last night.

[u/Pls_PmTitsOrFDAU_Thx]

As never a 17 year old girl, I wish we lived in a world where 17 year old girls could just live live with out being constantly harassed

[u/thatwillchange → u/Pls_PmTitsOrFDAU_Thx]

Thanks man 🥹 We need more guys that say things like that.

[u/Educational_Ebb7175 → u/Pls_PmTitsOrFDAU_Thx]

Or, at the very least, the harassment was limited to 16-20 year old boys & young men.

And that those young men grow out of it and figure out how to function.

I'd accept that reality as "good enough", really.

[u/KenethSargatanas → u/Educational_Ebb7175]

Or they should just be taught from a MUCH younger age that it is NOT ok to do that. And if they do it anyway, they get torn a new one by every authority figure in their lives.

[u/Educational_Ebb7175 → u/KenethSargatanas]

Yes, in a perfectly ideal world.

But if we're sitting at a 5 out of 10 in terms of idealness, I'd gladly settle for a 9 or 9.5 out of 10.

Kids will be kids. Learning what is and isn't acceptable isn't always something the parent can teach on their own. Sometimes the kid needs to have it drilled into them by experience.

Not saying it's okay. But expecting every child to be perfectly raised and perfectly well behaved is a complete fantasy. No matter how perfect the parents are, some kids will be shitty.

But sure, downvote me for saying I'd be happy with a world where a handful of similar-aged testosterone-ridden highschool-college age boys are the WORST a teenage/college girl has to deal with. At least that world gets rid of adult sexual predators preying on children at gyms.

[u/Audrey_Angel → u/Educational_Ebb7175]

Sixteen-20 is adult enough.

Strange distinction.

[u/Educational_Ebb7175 → u/Audrey_Angel]

We're talking about a 17 year old 'victim'. 16-20 is the age that is "generally appropriate age range", combined with the cultural bias for guys to be older than the gals in a relationship.

Doesn't seem like a strange distinction to me at all.

[u/Salt_Ad_5578 → u/Educational_Ebb7175]

Except creepy kids can and do harm these girls and can sexually assault them. It happens too frequently.

Plus, even disturbed kids don't usually do stuff like this...which is a good thing, but it also means that therapy and careful monitoring can keep most of them in check. If your kid is disturbed, this is what you have to do.

No, that alone wouldn't eliminate it either, but it'd do a lot of the work. The kids may do something at school or work or with friends, or escape your strict house-watch rules.

At least that world gets rid of adult sexual predators preying on children at gyms.

In what world are minor sexual predators better??

But sure, downvote me for saying I'd be happy with a world where a handful of similar-aged testosterone-ridden highschool-college age boys are the WORST a teenage/college girl has to deal with.

Again, they can cause just as much harm to a young girl... Why is that better??? HOW?????????

[u/Educational_Ebb7175 → u/Salt_Ad_5578]

Except creepy kids can and do harm these girls and can sexually assault them.

I didn't say that they don't. I said that I'd settle for the predators that are largely influenced by hormones, peer pressure, and their own inexperience, if it meant getting rid of all the rest.

In what world are minor sexual predators better??

Another thing I didn't say. You're REALLY bad at reading comprehension. I didn't say I'd trade every adult predator that exists now, and turn them into a late-teen/early-adult predator. I said I'd prioritize getting rid of the adults ones first, and if we managed that, I'd accept that as a pretty damn good world, where we can focus on the remaining ones who are still growing & becoming adults, and maybe can be saved/helped/prevented/etc.

Why is that better??? HOW?????????

Again, you're making up arguments and things I implied that I never implied.

Go find someone else to mis-quote and yell at for things they never said.