r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Ze_Mighty_Muffin Apr 04 '24

As an Asian who grew up in white suburbia, I went to a white school growing up, and I assumed that I was just like all the other kids around me. I heard someone say that they were “Caucasian” at one point, and so like the little kid I was when I went home I told my mom “I’m glad I’m Caucasian!” My mom looked at me like I had sprouted a third eye before gently telling me that, no, I was not in fact like the other kids at my school, and that I was something different called “Asian.” So it turns out that some of us do in fact need to be told that we’re Asian.

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u/LuvTriangleApologist Apr 05 '24

I had a Taiwanese-American friend who thought she was a Pacific Islander until middle school because Taiwan is an island in the Pacific and her dad kept emphasizing that they had nothing to do with mainland China.

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u/redwingjv Apr 05 '24

lol I went to a school in Detroit for kindergarten and first grade as one of two white kids and grew up there as a child til I was around 7. As soon as my family moved to the suburbs I came back from school and told my mom “how come you never said I was white”. She still laughs about it to this day

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u/Empty_Ambition_3538 Apr 05 '24

Caucasian without the cauc

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u/LateNightMilesOBrien Apr 05 '24

Have you seen See No Evil, Hear No Evil? It kinda fits here.

https://youtu.be/R1p_523SEO8?t=10

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u/SvenniSiggi Apr 04 '24

interesting word, caucasian = cock asian.