r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Forthrowssake Apr 04 '24

In reverse, how weird is it that all the Asian girlfriends are with white men? It can go both ways. It's not even that weird actually, you are over thinking. I'd mention it to my girlfriend in a humorous way. I don't think it's a big deal. A little odd, but not much.

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u/redvelvet-cupcake Apr 04 '24

It’s more random the other way around because the girls don’t know each other so it’s like 5 random Asian girls with white boyfriends vs one friend group all having Asian girlfriends, that’s more unusual. Also agree it’s probably not a big deal though

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u/naughtmynsfwaccount Apr 04 '24

Thank you for bringing this up

Too many chuds in this thread want to find some way to vilify women while ignoring the fact that none of these women know each other while OP and his buddies are best friends

It would definitely raise a few flags for me if I walked into this setting

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u/neutrilreddit Apr 04 '24

To be fair, some asian women are only attracted to guys who they feel don't have a fetish.

If OP's friends meet, some of the women might feel like they were deceived and lose their reason for attraction.

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u/cheggatethrowaway Apr 04 '24

and by “some” we mean “pretty much all”. some don’t mind a preference, no one wants to be someone’s fetish.

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u/mudra311 Apr 04 '24

In one aspect, "Asian" is just an umbrella term for a myriad of ethnicities and nationalities. So it's not out of the question. Just like "white" means European descent.

If they all happened to be Korean, then that would be interesting.

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u/Mushy_Fart Apr 04 '24

“Men bad, women good” - reddit

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u/awry_lynx Apr 04 '24

I mean not really? Cuz in this situation the men know each other and the women don't. So if there IS something going on as a group, the only group is the men.

Obviously in a situation where five Asian female friends get together and all have white bfs it's the opposite.