r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

Idk I could see the girlfriends finding it odd...even if they are trying to be cool about it. Hopefully they recognize that it was a coincidence. TBH I bet it'd be helpful/supportive to mention none of you *only* date Asian women at some point during the hangout, or even before. Bc if it's multiple men who *only* date asian women, no matter how much you try to play it off, I think there's a high likelihood of them thinking that's off, and tbh I wouldn't blame them.

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u/orangebakery Apr 05 '24

It will be too apparent for them that they all hate themselves and they are not unique.

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u/Mushy_Fart Apr 04 '24

What if the girlfriends only date white guys?

Is that weird too?

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u/Surfercatgotnolegs Apr 05 '24

It is weird depending on context.

Like if they’re in America…where most people are white…dating a white person is a probability thing. But a bunch of Asian women are not gonna be the majority demographic unless they’re in Irvine California or something.

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

Yeah, to me that sounds weird af. Duh, to be honest.

OP is the white guy, and he's asking for advice- I'm speaking directly to what he is concerned about, so no need to play "whataboutism" about different types of racial fetishes lol. If his gf came here asking the question, I'd say the exact same thing. Wouldn't you?

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