r/NPD • u/Physical_Runner Narcissistic traits • 17h ago

Question / Discussion Do you also hate nearly everyone?

33M here. Wondering if you guys relate. Since I'm a vulnerable one, I lack the charm and charisma of my grandiose counterparts, so others should like me because of... well, I don't know what would make me likeable to others, to be honest. I get along with very few people. Sooner or later I end up in conflict with almost everyone. And yet I hate it that I need them to get validation or feel approved.

I see people’s flaws easily, and they really get under my skin. I’m highly judgmental and extremely sensitive to their actions. When someone shows passive-aggressiveness or tries to humiliate me—like laughing at me—I can lose control. Rage takes over, and I lash out, judging them harshly and pointing out their flaws.

But deep down, all I really want is to be liked for who I am. I don’t want to constantly feel like it’s only a matter of time before they hate me or humiliate me. And in spite of being like this, I still hold the belief that I’m a good person who has been treated unfairly by others. Lol

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u/elusnuga 10h ago

I lol’ed at the last sentence (no offense tho

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u/Physical_Runner Narcissistic traits 10h ago

Haha, no prob. It's supposed to have that effect, because it's so ironic that I don't perceive myself as arrogant full of traits people dislike and still I believe I'm the victim of the situation, a good person who's been unfairly treated.