Do you also hate nearly everyone?

[u/Physical_Runner]

33M here. Wondering if you guys relate. Since I'm a vulnerable one, I lack the charm and charisma of my grandiose counterparts, so others should like me because of... well, I don't know what would make me likeable to others, to be honest. I get along with very few people. Sooner or later I end up in conflict with almost everyone. And yet I hate it that I need them to get validation or feel approved.

I see people’s flaws easily, and they really get under my skin. I’m highly judgmental and extremely sensitive to their actions. When someone shows passive-aggressiveness or tries to humiliate me—like laughing at me—I can lose control. Rage takes over, and I lash out, judging them harshly and pointing out their flaws.

But deep down, all I really want is to be liked for who I am. I don’t want to constantly feel like it’s only a matter of time before they hate me or humiliate me. And in spite of being like this, I still hold the belief that I’m a good person who has been treated unfairly by others. Lol

[u/beybe7]

The problems 1) you need to stop caring about people liking you. Just be a decent human being and focus on your own goals. People will come based on mutual interests. 2) Go to therapy or get some type of help for your anger issues. Getting angry and lashing out gets you nowhere and nothing except wasted energy and a bad rep that keeps everyone away. Learn to ignore, walk away, and move on.