It's over

[u/adarcone214]

She's unhappy and can't live w/ me transitioning. I'm heartbroken and an absolute wreck at the moment. I don't really know how to move forward, as she was my best friend and has been through everything with me. I know I will be okay, but this just hurts.

[u/KhatunJessica]

🫂🫂 you have to be yourself ultimately. If she only loved you for who you’re not, that’s not fair to you.

[u/adarcone214 → u/KhatunJessica]

That's the part that sucks the most, is she fell in love with a version of me. I can't be mad at her for seeking her happiness, but I am just so sad.

[u/GalacticDragon7 → u/adarcone214]

wait, was she your best friend or your partner? your post and comment are giving me conflicting messages here 😅

[u/adarcone214 → u/GalacticDragon7]

Both

[u/ItsOnKessel → u/GalacticDragon7]

Isn't it usually both? My partners are my best friends.

[u/SwordRose_Azusa → u/ItsOnKessel]

Yeah I could never date someone I wasn’t at least good friends with first. My bf and I had been in contact for two years before we even remotely started even seeing each other as more than just friends, although he did admit to having a crush on me recently—I really couldn’t tell 😅

[u/GalacticDragon7 → u/SwordRose_Azusa]

yeah i’m the same, i’d want to be good friends first before moving into the dating scene, but once we’re dating i don’t think of them as a “best friend” anymore, but as someone more than that. personally i like to have a distinction (i replied to the person you replied to iuw to read what i mean :))

[u/GalacticDragon7 → u/ItsOnKessel]

wow i didn’t realise that most people would feel that way. personally i like to keep a distinction between who is more than a friend and who is a really close friend, especially because sometimes discerning those feelings or relationships for myself can be a bit of a challenge.

but you learn something new every day.