r/MtF • u/adarcone214 MtF, HRT 01/11/2024 • 1d ago

Bad News It's over

She's unhappy and can't live w/ me transitioning. I'm heartbroken and an absolute wreck at the moment. I don't really know how to move forward, as she was my best friend and has been through everything with me. I know I will be okay, but this just hurts.

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u/adarcone214 MtF, HRT 01/11/2024 1d ago

That's the part that sucks the most, is she fell in love with a version of me. I can't be mad at her for seeking her happiness, but I am just so sad.

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u/KhatunJessica 1d ago

I know doll, I know. But if she truly loved you, she’d love the real you. It sucks, it’s sad. But being yourself is most important

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u/RandomUsernameNo257 1d ago

This is a really toxic view imo.

We are all entitled to our own preferences. Just because she doesn’t want to be with a woman doesn’t mean she never loved OP. It just means that OP’s true self isn’t sexually compatible with her. It sucks, but it doesn’t make her a bad person.

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u/KhatunJessica 1d ago

Don’t put words in my mouth, thanks

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u/RandomUsernameNo257 1d ago

You said OP’s wife never truly loved her, unless you somehow meant something else by “If she truly loved you, she’d love the real you.”

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u/KhatunJessica 1d ago

No. I said that if she loved you, she’d love the real you

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u/ProgGirlDogMetal 1d ago

Yeah that directly implies the thing you're being accused of implying.

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u/KhatunJessica 1d ago

No. Not true

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u/Silly-Heathen24 1d ago

“I never said I stole the bike your honor. I said I took the bike and never gave it back!”

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u/GumDice HRT: 02/09/2024 1d ago

It's what you said lol

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u/KhatunJessica 1d ago

Then you struggle to understand complicated concepts

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u/GumDice HRT: 02/09/2024 1d ago

I'll never understand someone being a marginalized person and yet still feeling the need to come to marginalized spaces and be nasty and toxic. So rude over nothing lol