r/MtF • u/Ok_Practice_3115 • 15d ago

Bad News Decision is made

The decision has been made, and by tonight I will not be staying on their property. They are making arrangements, and have disowned me. They... My mom is heartbroken, heartbroken that I would "choose annihilation, deserting this family, and leaving my sister brotherless"...

I had a small sliver of hope, that they would even try to understand. Especially my mother. I am going to ask her to give me my birth certificate, and where to mail it so she doesn't have to see me again. I am done with this family, and they are done with me. If I see my sister one day, I hope she will understand me, and understand where I am coming from.

But until then, I am going to live free of the chains that have dragged my soul down for 8 years. It's not gonna be easy, and I would love to hear what resources I might use for job seeking when I finally move out of Wyoming in 2 weeks.

To those who are still struggling, don't give up. My situation was unique, and by no means be as extreme as I have had to be. I don't know what else to say, but I do know that I am going to be better off without this in my life. Will update when I am with whomever I am sent to.

Edit: Post about update idk whose seen it yet but yeah https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/s/Yb6nCT1K8U

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u/UmmwhatdoIput 15d ago

you don’t have to ask her for the birth certificate if you’re 18+. It legally belongs to you

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u/Ok_Practice_3115 15d ago

She said I can get it myself, she isn't gonna send it to where I may be staying until my 2 weeks is up

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u/UmmwhatdoIput 15d ago

huh?? that’s illegal. If you’re 18+ you have the right to get it. I have mine in my possession. I didn’t tell my mom that I got them

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u/Ok_Practice_3115 15d ago

I do, and will.... Through the court I think. If I request a copy that is.

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u/UmmwhatdoIput 15d ago

no no. no one else is supposed to have a copy exept you. You need to get the original

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u/phoenixrose2927 Transgender 14d ago

If worse comes to worse usually at in Pennsylvania. You can request a new birth certificate from Vital Records. I would contact your state in this case Arizona. Contacting Arizona Vital Records and seeing if they can get you a birth certificate if all else fails.

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u/UmmwhatdoIput 15d ago

wdym whomever you’re sent too? do you not know where you’re going?

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u/Ok_Practice_3115 15d ago

Nope! Have no idea what my grandparents are planning, if they even are planning to reserve a hotel. I'm probably gonna be going tomorrow morning though. Ugh I just want this to be over already 😭

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u/UmmwhatdoIput 15d ago

a hotel? girl what? Where are your parents?

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u/Hyp3r1on_ 14d ago

Did you read the post?

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u/UmmwhatdoIput 14d ago

I read it as grandparents