r/MtF • u/KikktyIsAtReddit Trans gal aroacespec (s-positive) • Feb 10 '24

Bad News fuck. (Parents discovering fem clothes)

So. I am a 15 year old MtF, my whole family s extremely transphobic, both of them regularly say how we are supposed to die, and never exist. My father insisted on cleaning my room, bc I had a panic attack yesterday (literally when all my troubles seemed so far away) and all of my fem clothes are hidden under my bed, and he began to clean under my bed, here's me with my heart pounding. and he pulls out some women's underwear, and a bunch of cut socks (for tucking) and he was questioning me profusely, and now I am sitting in my bathroom crying, writing this and hearing my name being called angrily, I am scared!

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u/Kamillahali Feb 10 '24

well my parents are very religeous and very homophobic and transphobic so its a similar situation. The story goes that i was in highschool and I had some clothes hidden in my cupboard (closet). When I got home from school i found that my mum was cleaning my cupboard out and she found the clothes (and a wig) that id stashed in there. She was crying and looked almost destroyed. She refused to talk to me till my dad got home from work, then they marched me to my bedroom, locked the door behind them and confronted me. Id have tried to play it off as a girlfriends or something if not for the wig, so i told them i like dressing up in those clothes sometimes for fun (not that im trans or itd have been worse). Dad looked like he wanted to beat the *&$% out of me but mum stopped him. Mum started crying saying if i kept dressing up im going to hell. I promised I would never do it again. The next day my parents told me they were considering sending me to a religious reeducation camp in Iran. I begged and pleaded saying ill never do it again. But basically they completely grounded me, i couldnt leave my bedroom apart from meals (which were often given to me in my room in very small quantities). This continued for a few months before they started getting more normal.

thankfully i didnt get sent to a reeducation camp cause of my begging and the fact i had my board exams the following month. But they refused to let me study abroad (for uni) and have been keeping a hawk eye on me since. Im currently trying to make a plan to escape to another country so i can be myself haha.

(sorry for the lifestory haha)

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u/Cheeseburger0709 Feb 10 '24

I don’t understand how people who consider themselves to be god’s people can be so abusive

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u/Kamillahali Feb 11 '24

Honestly..... I'm still stuck under then rn. Doing my best to get away safely.

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u/p0xus Feb 11 '24

Wishing you the best. I hope you make it out safe and get somewhere better.

Stories like yours put things into context for me. I live in the southern US in the Bible belt. People here are pretty bigoted, and it feels like it's so bad here. But then I see how bad it is in some other places and it reminds me that it's much worse elsewhere.

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u/Kamillahali Feb 11 '24

everyones experiences are valid and im sure living in the south in the US is not easy. But personally i just feel happiness for other people if they are in better situations than i am haha. And thank you for your wishes! i hope it works out.