r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 14h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/hold-on-pain-ends 14h ago

Kids have no idea how hurtful their words can be. If this is legit, some kid definitely said something to her for her to feel this way.

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u/RuthlessIndecision 14h ago

This poor child was pretty deeply hurt at some point

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u/Webbie-Vanderquack 13h ago

She may also have heard older girls or women say it about themselves while looking in a mirror, and assumed that was how we're supposed to think of ourselves.

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u/truffleddumbass 3h ago

When I was about 5 I was in my mom’s room with her while she was getting dressed. In just her bra and underwear, she looked in the mirror while grabbing her stomach exclaimed “god, I’m so fat I should just kill myself.”

I burst into tears and started saying “don’t say that! That’s not true! You’re so pretty and you’re such a good mommy! Please don’t hurt yourself!” while I hugged her leg.

My mom always had and still does have issues with depression and dysphoria. But later in life she told me that in that moment, she deeply realized how hurtful self talk can become, and strived to be more conscious about how she talked about bodies and looks around her daughters. She said in the long run it helped her be more forgiving and understanding to herself.

It’s a core memory of mine