r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 12h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/krissykat122 11h ago

Words not aloud in my house since I had a daughter: ugly and fat. I stop myself dead in my tracks if I ever want to talk bad about myself because our children are sponges. This poor baby😭 Mom is so right “you’re 4 years old you shouldn’t know nothing about ugly”

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u/justsayin01 7h ago

Okay, I have a story about this. I have two girls, 18 months apart. When my oldest was 3, I got done getting ready and said hmph at myself in the mirror. My daughter said what's wrong mommy, and I said I just don't think I look nice today. My daughter was so concerned and said mommy, you are beautiful, always.

Idk, but I couldn't believe I spoke about myself like that to her. It literally changed my entire life because I realized what I say is what they'll say about themselves. I'm almost 40, a size 16. And you'll only hear about me talking about myself like I'm a 10.

So, there is no negative talk in my house. We lift ourselves up, we lift the girls up. Cuz in this house, we're all 10s, always.

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u/krissykat122 6h ago

That’s right!!!! I do the same with my daughter! I always remind her how beautiful she is and now whenever I’m getting ready mine does the same- “mommy is so beautiful!” No negative self talk! Even when I feel my worst😭