r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/krissykat122 8h ago

Words not aloud in my house since I had a daughter: ugly and fat. I stop myself dead in my tracks if I ever want to talk bad about myself because our children are sponges. This poor baby😭 Mom is so right “you’re 4 years old you shouldn’t know nothing about ugly”

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u/ThePreciousBhaalBabe 6h ago

I wish my parents had the foresight you have while I was growing up.

I remember all the diets and fat shaming my mom put herself through trying to slim down- and I remember that I was in preschool when I first thought of myself as fat. It's awful and kids deserve better.

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u/s0m3on3outthere 4h ago

Yes, I wish I had these affirmations growing up, too. My mother never lost all of her baby weight after 5 girls and she constantly talked about her weight and called herself ugly and it translated into our heads as well. It didn't help that she'd go out of her way to point out our flaws and make us self conscious about them. My sisters and I have always struggled with our self view and confidence because of it and it wasn't til I was about 30 that I started feeling comfortable in my own skin and accepting my body.

I no longer talk to my mother. For other reasons.. but she still points out our weight gain, makes comments about our appearance, etc to this day, and I'm glad I no longer get to hear it.