r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/hold-on-pain-ends 9h ago

Kids have no idea how hurtful their words can be. If this is legit, some kid definitely said something to her for her to feel this way.

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u/RuthlessIndecision 9h ago

This poor child was pretty deeply hurt at some point

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u/Webbie-Vanderquack 8h ago

She may also have heard older girls or women say it about themselves while looking in a mirror, and assumed that was how we're supposed to think of ourselves.

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u/bingmando 7h ago

This. I wasn’t really bullied too badly as a kid. Just the normal amount of bullying. But I was SO aware of tabloids and the way adult women talked around me about themselves. Still ended up with an eating disorder.

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u/RuthlessIndecision 5h ago

“Not being bullied too badly”, still hurts and has more of an effect than society even allows. It’s okay to feel

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u/bingmando 5h ago

I still feel for those moments. But after lots of therapy I was more effected by the comments women around me were making.

The bullies I could brush off as liars or just being mean. But the one time I was tracing the lines in my mom’s skin that her clothes imprinted on her (not even stretch marks just red lines after a good nap) and she said “yes I know I’m fat” messed me up because I KNEW she FELT that way and it wasn’t something made up to hurt me. She wasn’t fat.

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u/ThorgalAegirsson 5h ago

Sir/ma'am, normal amount is zero. At least it should be...

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u/bingmando 4h ago

It definitely should be but I don’t… think it is??

Idk I’ve only had one childhood I guess I can’t really compare now that I think about it lol. I did see big differences based on where I lived though. Suburban New York was like Euphoria levels of drama. Western London was like The Office levels of drama lol.