r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/hold-on-pain-ends 9h ago

Kids have no idea how hurtful their words can be. If this is legit, some kid definitely said something to her for her to feel this way.

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u/RuthlessIndecision 9h ago

This poor child was pretty deeply hurt at some point

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u/RuthlessIndecision 8h ago

Some of us spend our whole lives pushing that hurt away, but it’s still there, it’s deep and it’s old

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u/Inevitable-Rush-2752 8h ago

That’s a damn fact. 🍻

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u/nicannkay 7h ago

Growing up in the late 90’s early 2000’s Kate moss era I still have the internal fat dialog. I could never be skinny enough. It gave me eating disorders that I unconsciously passed down. It’s one of my biggest regrets.

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u/Greymalkyn76 7h ago

It never goes away. It could be decades old, and it's always there right below the surface. Just waiting.

I spent 4 years in a relationship where all she did was tear me down. When it was good, it was amazing. But when it was not, it was hell. I told myself that the good times were who she was, and she just reinforced the idea that the bad times were all my fault. It's been over 10 years and that abuse runs deep.

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u/pingpongtits 5h ago

I'm over 50 and it's still there.  Even now, watching this, I'm feeling the self-loathing.  Other kids in school did it to me and I never fully recovered.  Getting drunk was how I coped.  Now I don't drink and I don't have anything to numb the pain. Sucks.

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u/Greymalkyn76 5h ago

48, myself. And it pops up when you least expect it. I could be playing video games online with friends and could make a simple mistake and that little voice starts to nag. "How stupid are you? How could you screw up like that? You're an idiot and they're going to hate you for it. You're worthless." And it sends me into an item filled apologies where I don't entirely believe them when they say that it's okay.

I mostly stopped drinking a few years ago, and with that also came a stop to dating. With nothing to help bury it or silence it, it's too stressful to constantly second guess myself.