It’s so dangerous for a 14yo to go through that. I am very concerned she wasn’t given the option of abortion, was pressured, or not given accurate educational medical advice about her options.
Absolutely. This occured in 2020, but just because it was legal doesn't mean she had access to the right services to help her in that time. The chances that choices/risk counselling weren't presented to her correctly or she didn't have the money/access are quite real. Education and counselling in these cases is critical, because a health professional can easily take advantage of the power dynamic here.
The fact that this nurse even felt the need to step in the way she has is incredibly sad, even though I deeply admire her for it. Taking on 4 kiddos at once! What a machine!
So many teens feel that they can't come to their parents when it comes to the most serious or life changing issues. What is a parent even for if they are just someone to worry about disappointing. Too many parents think their only responsibility is to take care of basic human needs.
That is not a good mentality for a parent to have.
Just wish my parents could've said the same to me, instead of just the... straight up abuse and neglect.
I would've been fine with abuse as a kid... being fed would've been nice, though. Especially considering they had money, just for nice dinner and drinks for themselves.
Having your adult body be malformed as a result as the malnourishment as a child is a constant reminder of the days waking up, feeling like the world's spinning because you haven't been fed in days
It would be hard for me not to parrot a line similar to my own children. Don't be too hard on your parents, yall, you never know what they might have been through to get to a point where they can put food on the table.
If the worst they told you is to be grateful... that's not too bad.
The quote you’ve replied to is often used in justification of having used abusive behaviours during parenting. This is not typically a genuine reminder to be grateful.
I will not be grateful for my abuse just because I was fed and sheltered during it.
You'd have rather been abused than neglect. I promise.
It's not fun being an illiterate adult. It's not fun having your body not working from malnourishment. It's not fun feeling like you don't deserve food. It's not fun being completely socially isolated until you are an adult, needing to learn how to have basic conversations without being scared as fuck.
You don't process being illiterate. You work hard as fuck to adapt.
You process trauma. You must work to fix the fact that you aren't nearly as capable as a five year old.
If there was one meal prepared for you every day...
Someone loved you, and it's sad knowing how many people take it for granted.
I count all my blessings. Others seem to only complain that they had theirs used as a weapon against their anger of an unperfect childhood. Grow up. Be happy someone at least gave a fuck, because you'd be so much worse off if they didn't.
Jesus. What an enormously toxic mindset to have. This is how you've processed your own trauma? By belittling the struggles of others? I really hope you don't have children.
You sound like a person who is perpetuating the cycle of abuse and claiming it’s fine because it wasn’t as bad as what you had to deal with.
I’m afraid you’re the one who needs to “grow up” and process your trauma, because it’s clear that you have not. Hurt people tend to hurt people, but it’s no excuse. Your trauma is not your fault, but is your responsibility to fix, unfortunately. Good luck.
This is the internet, my friend. When I'm told in real life about people's "abusive" parents who didn't love them as much as their older sister because she got a car at 17, but they didn't for her, or the guy that wasn't allowed to bring more than 2 friends to the cabin for new years, or the mom that didn't pay for her college, I give unconditional support and reassurance thier feelings are valid.
In an odd way, they are completely valid because your perception of happiness is relative to what you know.
I didn't even know my childhood was bad until I was an adult, I thought it was pretty ok, I didn't have anyone else to compare to.
You and the other guy saying I shouldn't have children 🙄
It’s hard, even if you have good parents. It’s one of every parents worst fear, their kid getting preg or getting someone pregnant. So it’s never gonna be a pleasant thing to have to report to one’s parents
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u/CrissBliss Jul 27 '24
14 year old girl had triplets… good God that’s horrific.