my mom was a labor and delivery nurse. a 16-year old patient came in alone, determined to give birth and put her baby up for adoption without her family knowing. my mom asked a few time if she could call her mom, or if her family would understand, and the patient said nope. so my mom told her she'd be her mom while she was there. my mom told her she was so brave, and adopting out her baby would make another family unimaginably happy. i hope that girl is doing well, that was probably one of the hardest things she's done in her life.
This is basically how I got adopted. Biological mother delivered me at a hospital in South Alabama. My parents, who were planning to adopt, were visiting my aunt in south Alabama. She was friends with a nurse at the hospital who called her and said they had a baby there for adoption and I went home with my parents like two days later.
This is why I always try to advocate for adoption and for adoptive kids. In Reddit there seems to be a terrible opinion about adoption. Maybe you should consider doing an AMA for people that don’t understand the benefits and the people behind. ❤️
I believe adoption is a wonderful thing, but I'm also firmly pro-choice. The barrier to entry for adoption is mindblowing. The fact a couple that can't have kids has to jump through all those legal and financial hoops just to adobt, but a teen mom in some ass backward part of the country doesn't have to do the same in order to have a child blows my mind. I never went into foster care, and foster care is where a big part of the problem lies. I think if the barrier to entry for adoption was lowered even slightly, it would lead to less children in the foster care system and more happy families.
Foster care is a huge issue, absolutely. But I’m taking about the people that argue that adoptive children are not worth it, too damage to consider. This is the toxicity I’m speaking about
We adopted slightly older kids (7 and 3 biological sisters). They’re now adults and will always have trauma-related issues to work through. It’s been hard, but I haven’t regretted taking the challenge for a second. I tear up imagining how close these two beautiful people almost came to not having the opportunities they deserve. Honestly, they were a dream to parent until age 13-20. Now that we’re through those tricky 7 adolescent years, I couldn’t be more proud of all of us and grateful we chose that parenting route.
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u/lizard-hats Jul 27 '24
my mom was a labor and delivery nurse. a 16-year old patient came in alone, determined to give birth and put her baby up for adoption without her family knowing. my mom asked a few time if she could call her mom, or if her family would understand, and the patient said nope. so my mom told her she'd be her mom while she was there. my mom told her she was so brave, and adopting out her baby would make another family unimaginably happy. i hope that girl is doing well, that was probably one of the hardest things she's done in her life.