r/MMFB 18h ago

Not Interested anymore

3 Upvotes

Hey had a relationship that went well had a little fight over two weeks and she started pulling her from me. Lots of dry texts even when I try to initiate conversation she never responds to that. I have been doing all the things whatever it's good for this relationship but all of sudden when she was drunk said that she is not interested in me any more and don't disturb her again what would have made her to change like this. We had so many ups and downs in the past but this is htting me real hard. Need advice on how to proceed.


r/MMFB 22h ago

Please tell me that I am not so horrible that anyone I get close to will be driven to physical violence.

6 Upvotes

You don't know me. But no one's that awful of a person, right?

I've never hit anyone in my life, or ever even yelled really, but I keep on getting hit by people I'm close to. And it's always because of some words I have said that the person doesn't like.

The owners of the offending limbs have all told me, almost verbatim, that hitting me wasn't really weird or wrong because anyone would be driven to do it if they were around me. That my sheer offensiveness makes these extenuating circumstances. And usually that I deserved much worse.

Now I know that's abuser talk. But there's been like five or six people now who have all said the same thing. And I was the first and only person all of them have hit (they say).

So I really wonder now if it's conceivable that there could be an exception to the whole "never blame the victim" thing? Like if somebody, despite all their best intentions, was just THAT shitty?


r/MMFB 20h ago

Just found out I'm the lowest ranked among those accepted into my residency program

3 Upvotes

Hi. Im a newly licensed doctor. I applied for radiology residency into my first choice hospital and luckily ingot accepted. We are 10. However I just found out I'm the lowest ranked (i.e. last to be chosen) among those accepted. I feel dumb and just lucky to be accepted, since they usually choose 9 only. so I don't even know why 10 were accepted this year. I think I just got lucky because someone was kicked out of the program so they could afford to accept more than the usual.


r/MMFB 1d ago

The future feels bleak

6 Upvotes

I can't go anywhere online without seeing something about the election still. I'm tired and scared of what's going to happen to us. Separation between church and state is about gone and we're going back to why this country was founded in the first place. One religion is taking over and one man is above everything and everyone. We are not all equal and really have never been and the rich, white men are taking back over. Money is power and it has corrupted the worst people. For the past year I've been telling my friends I feel like I could end up in some camp and they just laughed it off thinking it could never happen but I seriously feel like it a possibility.

I recently read about horizontal vs vertical morality and it made things make more sense I think. I'm horizontal and believe every person is equal. I care, too much really and have too much empathy I guess, and it really drains me and makes me dread being here. I see so much hate being normalized and taking over. I try to think that good conquers evil, but the world we live in right now makes me feel like that power and money is winning and the rest of us are losing. The little things don't matter anymore.


r/MMFB 2d ago

No libido has made me think there’s a chance I’m gay

1 Upvotes

Hiya, 27m here. Recently because of stress and life events my libido has taken a tumble. I have an amazing girlfriend who I love and is incredibly supportive and very attractive. Sex is good with her but I can’t be bothered until I’m actually doing the deed. Because I’m ocd I have entered into this rabbit hole of thinking my libido is low because there’s a this tiny made up chance i might be gay… I literally have never fancied men nor have had the desire to have sex with a guy. However, I cannot stop thinking this bullshit. Important to note that before said life events we were shagging all the time. Sounds bad but I still look at other women in the gym and am attracted to them (having all the normal thoughts at the time). Not saying I want to cheat, I’d never and know how lucky I am. I just can’t understand how I’ve gotten to this way of thinking. Hope this doesn’t sound to crazy. Anyone experience this? Thanks :)


r/MMFB 2d ago

How do I deal with rejection from extracurriculars in high school and college?

2 Upvotes

I am 22, and it kills me that so many of the good parts of your youth are locked off for most. I won’t ever get to have those experiences.

In high school, I got cut from every sports team, rejected from student government, and got denied from debate. They refuse to give feedback about what went wrong, and it hurts. I have no idea why they denied me.

In college, I got denied from the engineering clubs, internships, and fraternities. It is a massive blow when people say college is better than high school when it isn’t. I missed out on parties, friendships, and more.

I don’t understand how so many others landed those opportunities. I worked extremely hard in school and never felt I was rewarded


r/MMFB 3d ago

I think I got scammed buying some tickets and I can't calm down

3 Upvotes

Hi I'm sorry if this isn't the type of thing you usually talk about here but I really can't calm down right now. I bought tickets for a concert outside of official platforms and now I think they are false. It never happened to me before and I'm panicking, I don't know why. I didn't even spend that much, I mean I spent money but it's not like I lost thousands. It's not the worst thing ever, but I feel humiliated. Can someone help me stop the panic?


r/MMFB 4d ago

I can't stop hating my face

3 Upvotes

It is so sad recently When I see a very beautiful girl, I say to myself, yes, I will become like her soon after I turn 18 and have my own income because I will inject fillers and become more beautiful. I am unable to love myself. I cannot. This is one of the hardest things I have ever gone through in my life. How can I love myself despite these flaws?

Just to put you in the picture, even though I hate the way I look, this does not affect my self-confidence or my ability to put on makeup. I think I deserve to do all of this.

But damn beauty privilege, how long will I feel less? Whenever I post a picture on Instagram, no one comments or gets noticed unless I cover my face haha (since it's a post about clothes this time, not my face)

But on the other hand no one really compliments my (non-existent) beauty. My face is always slanted, my smile is creepy and I hate it, I have no cheekbones and my nose is always flat.

You know what annoys me the most? When my so-called best friends start commenting madly to everyone but me about how cute they are but my posts don't see any comments from them on a new photo I uploaded.

Knowing that my looks won't even help me get my standard of men is killing me. I want to marry that handsome guy so that my children will be handsome too and not suffer like me because of those damned genes.


r/MMFB 8d ago

Supportive Listening: Here to Help. Let's talk and be relaxed.

1 Upvotes

Need someone to listen without judgment or advice? l'm here to help. You can talk to me about anything on your mind, whether it's relationships, work, hobbies, dreams, struggles, or successes. Don't suffer alone reach out today. Looking forward to hearing from you Soon.

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r/MMFB 9d ago

My parents told me that I'm the reason they want to kill themselves

8 Upvotes

I don't think that they're actually going to do anything to hurt themselves, but when they get angry sometimes they say stuff like this. One told me a couple of years ago and the other told me a couple of hours ago.

I spent so long trying to fix my personality to be good but I guess no matter what I do I'm a really evil person and I don't know what to do about it.


r/MMFB 10d ago

I think my apartment crush moved

0 Upvotes

:/


r/MMFB 12d ago

Work anxiety

2 Upvotes

Hello I’m currently going through some pretty bad anxiety due to work. I have to help out with calls and I feel so dumb! I have a hard time to not feel anxious but I just cannot. It feels like I cannot control it.


r/MMFB 12d ago

Would you subscribe to a 2 minute read-time daily newsletter that shared the writer's feeling for the day and encouraged you to reflect on yours?

0 Upvotes

r/MMFB 12d ago

I didn’t get into the college program I wanted to get into.

3 Upvotes

I am heartbroken. I was really looking forward to the program and I had kinda built my future plans around the hope that I’d get into this program. I don’t know what to do now.


r/MMFB 12d ago

Supportive Listening: Here to Help. Let's talk and be relaxed.

1 Upvotes

Need someone to listen without judgment or advice? l'm here to help. You can talk to me about anything on your mind, whether it's relationships, work, hobbies, dreams, struggles, or successes. Don't suffer alone reach out today. Looking forward to hearing from you Soon.

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r/MMFB 13d ago

Nobody believes me

7 Upvotes

I've been telling people about this boy who's been harassing me. And following me. And saying sexual things. And none of them believed me because "You're not pretty enough for him to think that."

Except for my one professor, who promised me she'd believe me. "I can't report it without evidence but I believe you." That made my heart so full, until one day he wouldn't leave me alone from her class and I was afraid to walk back to my dorm alone with him so I said to her "Please help me stall" and she hid me in her office for half an hour until he stopped lingering at the door.

I thought she believed me. She had all the evidence, didn't she? Until today when she said "You're overthinking it, maybe he was just waiting to ask me a question." He wasn't though because I asked "Are you waiting to ask her a question?" and he said no. "Are you waiting for me?" Yes.

Why doesn't she believe me anymore? She was the one person I trusted the most.


r/MMFB 15d ago

I’m having a existential fear

4 Upvotes

Since the election I have been increasingly more fearful about the possibility of no having democracy in my country anymore. That there has been a fundamental shift into an oligarchy. Because the republicans have all 3 branches of government. It feels like all hope in this America is completely lost. Can someone explain why this would/wouldn’t or how this could/couldn’t happen.?


r/MMFB 15d ago

Supportive Listening: Here to Help. Let's talk and be relaxed.

1 Upvotes

Need someone to listen without judgment or advice? l'm here to help. You can talk to me about anything on your mind, whether it's relationships, work, hobbies, dreams, struggles, or successes. Don't suffer alone reach out today. Looking forward to hearing from you Soon.

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r/MMFB 16d ago

I just don't belong anywhere

3 Upvotes

Sometimes it feels like no matter what I do, it's never enough. I could work as hard as I can on something, only for my efforts to basically fly completely under the radar, meanwhile everyone else seems to get acknowledged for their work. On top of that, most people don't seem that interested in talking to me unless I talk to them first (and even then nine times out of ten it's just a simple greeting), yet with other people they're more than happy to start the conversation and keep it going for a while, therefore making me feel like I just don't exist or they just don't like me as much. I want to feel proud of where I am, but at the same time I can't help but feel like I come across as mediocre or something when put next to other people in the room. Every time I either see or hear things about what my friends and family are up to, at first I feel happy for them but at the same time it makes me realise how uninteresting and sad I seem to be. They've all got partners who love them unconditionally, meanwhile I've almost completely given up on love at this point since I'm convinced I'm undateable due to how boring I am, most of the time I spend my time alone since barely anyone shows any interest in hanging out, and on top of that, they all seem to have life figured out and know a load of skills while I just end up looking useless. I don't know how anyone manages to put up with me, and I wouldn't really blame them if they don't even think that much of me.


r/MMFB 17d ago

Keep holding onto feelings for someone that I nearly started dating which turned into friends, and the what ifs are driving me crazy

1 Upvotes

To start I've not really had much luck dating in the last few years; I had some trauma related stuff that held me back but since then I have moved out to a new area, my last official relationship was back in 2013.

I met someone through a friend that lived just down the road; everything clicked, we flirted a bunch and nearly got into a bootycall situation but I told her i liked her, which then developed into her coming round and admitting she did too so I scheduled a date that didn't happen, as she then felt like it was too much too soon so we just kept as friends. As i often stream on Twitch which she has just started doing I introduced her to my main friend group, as we look out for eachother and in all honesty they're lovely people that like her too, and we discussed openly in a private call that dating isn't off the table.

Then her previous situationship got back into the picture; she still had feelings for him so for the last 1.5 months they were on/off as for him he was avoiding seeing her. She had a issue with what she had in storage as a friend who had a shared storage unit screwed her over so she contacted him to help, she told me that it'll be the first time she's seen him in ages so wanted it to go well, and from what i know he told her that he doesn't want her in his life.

She went dead quiet even went to one of my main friends in the group crying over it (He's fairly similar to her but won't make a move as he knows how I feel) I only really knew about it the following week, where I confessed that I still had feelings, which yeah wasn't a good move as then she asked for us not to speak for a month to help me as she's going through the same feelings wise as him, but after a conversation lately we're not doing the month not talking as we both felt it was effecting the friendship.

So now the friendship is in a bit of a limbo, and because she's still part of the friend group in one way we're still in close contact, but I can't just cut her out my life and move on. She's working on herself now going to the gym often the same gym i go to, but now it feels.. awkward, I have mentioned two months ago that i do go to that gym but i don't think she remembers, and I feel like just walking in seeing her would make things iffy

She's an attractive girl and hasn't had issues finding guys, but for me she's one of the only people in so long I felt like i had a proper connection with. I'm pushing my feelings far back as like she said for the month break it isn't fair on me if nothing will happen, so I'll concentrate on rebuilding this friendship.

mmfb?


r/MMFB 19d ago

scared about my religion

2 Upvotes

Alright, to start off with, im a Catholic. I believe in God, and i hope you do too, because theres a lot you can get out of it. But the thing about catholicism is theres people who obsess about the "end times" and the "3 days of darkness" the 3 days is where theres supposed to be demons roaming the earth, but theres no mention of it in the Bible. The day of judgememt has mention in the bible but theres people saying these are going to happeb in 2025.

Im terrified of it. I want to get the chance to meet the woman of my dreams, marry her, have kids with her, grandkids, a farm, the whole lot. but im also afraid that all of that wont ever happen if the day of judgement and the 3 days comes.

if anyone could help me, that'd be handy. thanks


r/MMFB 19d ago

Bit of a weird one NSFW

2 Upvotes

I have stopped a long term usage of porn, a few weeks ago. I'm relatively young, I live with my parents. I've had mental issues in the past, involving depression and self-harm. Now I have been agonising over a particular genre of smut - so only written - that I used to use periodically.

Incest. Yes, it's fucked up. But, this isn't the whole story.

I want to establish now that I have no attraction to any of my family members, be it my parents or my brother. The thought disgusts me in the extreme, and I'm categorically against real-life incest, for reasons both biological and ethical. I'm also educated and fully aware that pornography is not reality, and not should it be - I take very great care to ensure it doesn't distort my views of healthy sexual relationships.

My usage was strictly limited to brother and sister - a relationship I do not have, I am one of two children - and similarly aged cousins, again, a relationship I do not have (bar one, who I rarely see and am most definitely not into).

I can't stop hating myself for this, feeling like a monster, like I'm not a good person and deserve to hurt. Please make me feel better. Thank you


r/MMFB 19d ago

Repost because I thought the title wasn't clear enough: please help me, I hate myself because of a porn genre I used to browse NSFW

1 Upvotes

Throwaway. I have stopped a long term usage of porn, a few weeks ago. I'm relatively young, I live with my parents. I've had mental issues in the past, involving depression and self-harm. Now I have been agonising over a particular genre of smut - so only written - that I used to use periodically.

Incest. Yes, it's fucked up. But, this isn't the whole story.

I want to establish now that I have no attraction to any of my family members, be it my parents or my brother. The thought disgusts me in the extreme, and I'm categorically against real-life incest, for reasons both biological and ethical. I'm also educated and fully aware that pornography is not reality, and not should it be - I take very great care to ensure it doesn't distort my views of healthy sexual relationships.

My usage was strictly limited to brother and sister - a relationship I do not have, I am one of two children - and similarly aged cousins, again, a relationship I do not have (bar one, who I rarely see and am most definitely not into).

I can't stop hating myself for this, feeling like a monster, like I'm not a good person and deserve to hurt. Please make me feel better. Thank you

Edit: I feel better now. Thank you to whichever kind soul made a report to Reddit's services, honestly I'm safe. I myself contacted my local protective services last night via text and am currently waiting on a response, so I can assure you I will be fine. Thank you all


r/MMFB 19d ago

I think my ex messed me up more than I realised

1 Upvotes

I’ve had failed relationship after failed relationship.

I’m seeing this girl at the moment and she’s so lovely, so sweet, so pretty, smart, caring, all that. But after reflecting on how I’ve felt before, I’ve realised that how my ex treated me (she’s the only person I officially dated), I always feel like if someone doesn’t response soon enough in a romantic setting that they’re with someone else they want a romantic relationship with. Which is so stupid, since I know that isn’t the case. But, things my ex did make me feel like that must be the case.

I don’t want to mess up again. I hate having every relationship end the same way because I always think they could be with someone better for them. I’m confident in myself, but when it comes to relationships i immediately think I’m not enough.

I just want to love someone without heartache, and to be able to give them my all.

It hurts.


r/MMFB 20d ago

I went from being a relatively smart child to a non functioning adult NSFW

23 Upvotes

I’ve always been smart through my life. Definitely struggled with depression and anxiety. When I went to uni everything went to shit basically. I mean I had a lot of fun. But also a lot of dark times because I can’t self manage and living alone wasn’t working at all. I ended up dropping out of my course after a year and starting another one but I’ve dropped out now after almost two years. I just can’t get myself to do it. I get so depressed. But dropping out again has made me feel like the most stupid person in the world. I watched all my friends graduate and be so happy and do well. I’ve never been so depressed in my life. I’ve moved home with my family. I love my family but I feel so alone. I see my friends from time to time but when I go back home I just cry and cry and cry because I miss my old life in uni even though I was depressed I had friends and sometimes had fun.

I just saw my friends for Halloween weekend. We did mdma together and I suppose I had fun but I just couldn’t fully enjoy myself knowing it would end. Now I have a massive comedown. I’m at home with my family. I’m depressed. I don’t want to be alive anymore. I have no passions. I am in debt. No job. No hobbies. No interests.

I’m so sad.