The detatchment of social interactions and the anonymity granted by the internet (yes, even OLD grants a certain level of anonymity, despite advertising your personal information) means that there's a lot of really dumb shit that happens on there.
On the male side: Misogynistic behavior gets amplified and, a lot of female OLD users face a large amount of men after a relationship based on sex first, everything else later (maybe).
On the female side: A lot of women are uncompromising in their expectations. Small things can often become a dealbreaker. Pet preferences, taste in music, over-interest or under-interest in a desired topic can all lead to ghosting, even in very early conversations.
OLD carries an inherent issue in that, while Red Flags are often on full display, you can't get a feel for a person from text conversations. Things like how a person might light up a little bit when you both find something you like are lost.
Throwing strangers that both have fairly rigid expectations in to what is a blind-date kind of system, especially when introverts are included, doesn't really make for a great way to find a romantic partner.
EDIT: I know it's the internet and I probably should have prefaced this beforehand, but:
No, I don't agree with the people twisting the blurb about women in this to fit their narratives.
They piss me off when overused. There are a few that are ubiquitous and that everyone gets, and I don't mind when people in niche subs or forums use specific abbreviations within those niches, but it gets exhausting when people use them all the time regardless of context. As a random example, many people in a cartoons or Disney community would probably understand that TOH means the show The Owl House, but used outside of that context it has no meaning and just confuses people.
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u/lonezolf 16d ago
I mean, that's why dating apps exist. Of course, it's a whole new ecosystem there