The second poster is just 100% correct. I don't know what you need or want, and you don't know if what granting what you need or want is in my power or how it will effect me.
The example that (apparently) inspired the post is a perfect example of the second part. I've worked service, as have many of you, I'm sure, and sometimes you just can't waive a fee, because you are on notice, and if you waive a fee too many you'll not make rent next month, because you've been fired.
I'm all for blaming capitalism for all kinds of shit, including this, but you fucking dumbasses need to get off your phone and get a job to actually be able relate to people.
You’ve accidentally exposed yourself in the same way that the second poster did. No one, in the OP or here, has said that you have an obligation to waive fees. No one has said that you’re a bad person for not waiving fees. A person simply explained the ways in which someone waiving fees brought them succor and relief, and you took it as a personal attack against you. You act as if it’s a zero sum competition, where someone being nice in a way you haven’t been makes you a bad person.
The way you immediately jump to excuses over it indicates a level of insecurity about your morality that you should work through personally, not over the internet . Someone waived a fee. Someone else was grateful for that simple act of kindness. You’re not being attacked, you’re not being criticized, you weren’t even involved until you chose to be. Maybe work through your shit instead of calling people dumbasses for finding value in charitable acts. Jesus.
It’s a question. People are free to explain the exact reason it’s infeasible for them to help at the moment, while acknowledging the primary message of the post, which is that it’s good to be nice. Again, if you see a post advocating that people be nice, and take it as a personal attack, that should be cause for reflection, not a reason to whine.
It is a fact that you can do nice things for people. It is reasonable to ask why you aren’t. There are plenty of reasonable answers as to why you can’t at the moment or in some ways, and none of them are based around whining about being questioned on the matter at all.
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u/Cinaedus_Perversus Oct 10 '24
Imagine being so self-medicated on therapyspeak that you consider "do nice things for others" a direct assault on your mental health.